The Sound of a Fallen Tree

“Hoovering”: Backfire    

When you end a “relationship” with a narcissist, he or she will try to make your life a living hell by using “emotional blackmail”. The intent is to convince you that returning to him or her will make your life better. However, do not forget that the narcissist is the source of the upheaval, and was manipulative in the “relationship” and is still trying to manipulate you. In addition, his or her actions are disrespectful to you and is being done out of selfishness instead of love. Keep in mind that those are some of the reasons why you may have left the “relationship” to begin with. As a result, everything the narcissist does in an attempt to pull you back into the toxic relationship should strengthen your resolve to stay away from that person. The harder the narcissist tries to “hoover” you back in is the further away you should get. Let every evil deed serve as a reminder of the narcissist’s true colors, which is why you left and should never return. Also, the narcissistic attacks serve as evidence that it is the narcissist whose life is miserable without your presence instead of you needing the narcissist in your life. The narcissist needs you but you don’t need him or her, which is a part of the reason why it is easier for you to go “no-contact”. Given time and space you will discover that your life is much better without the narcissist, and the narcissist hates when you are happy (as was the case when you were “together”).

A person who loves you would not try to hurt you, to include by trying to overtly or covertly destroy your relationship with others, which is a narcissistic ploy to try to isolate you… By the way, do not fall for the ridiculous line of reasoning if you witness someone trying to destroy another person’s life while claiming he or she is fighting for love. You should be able to tell that what the person is packaging as being cute is actually creepy. It is a very telling sign when a person cannot see that his or her attempts to get someone back is backfiring.

A person who does not respect your boundaries does not respect you, and there is a strong correlation between love and respect. Moreover, and for some people this may be very difficult, forgive the narcissist for everything. You become better and let the narcissist seethe in his or her bitterness. Forgiveness is like washing yourself clean after a narcissist tries to defile you. Forgiveness is not about forgetting what the narcissist has done, and most certainly, it is not about reconciling with a narcissist. Forgiveness allows you to cut the umbilical cord between you and the narcissist, and more importantly, to reconcile your relationship with God. When your relationship with the Lord is in good standing then the narcissist lives in enmity with God. Live at peace with your enemies yet don’t let them get within striking distance of you. Please keep the following in mind regarding your enemies and forgiveness:

  • ‘For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.’ ~ Jesus (Matthew 6:14-15 (KJV)

 

  • “Then came Peter to Him, and said, ‘Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Till seven times?’ Jesus saith unto him, ‘I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.’” ~ Matthew 18:21-22 (KJV) Please, don’t keep track of how many times you have forgiven someone, especially a narcissist. In addition to the previous example, the Lord provided the following insight on handling situations that require forgiveness. “Then said He unto the disciples, ‘It is impossible but that offences will come: but woe unto him, through whom they come! It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones. Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him. And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.’” ~ Luke 17:1-4 (KJV) Don’t spend time rebuking a narcissist every time he or she violates a boundary, or at least tries. A narcissist will do some unfathomable things in an effort to consume your time and attention. A narcissist does not respect boundaries, and neither does he or she have boundaries regarding how far he or she will go to meet an objective. He or she will even use the name and/or Word of God to manipulate you, just like the devil (Genesis 3, Luke 4:1-13). A narcissist is also a liar so he or she may engage in false repentance in an effort to lure you back in. Your best bet is to simply forgive the narcissist and move on. It may have seemed odd that people knowingly persecuted Jesus and had Him nailed to the cross, yet He said, ‘Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do.’ ~ Luke 23:34 (KJV) It seemed as if they knew exactly what they were doing, especially considering that they had spent time plotting how to do it. Despite how much time and effort a narcissist spends trying to destroy you, the narcissist does not know he or she is actually destroying him or herself. Can you imagine being one of Christ’s persecutors and having to stand before Him on judgment day? The same goes for king Saul who spent years of his life persecuting David. When you study that story, you will see how many times Saul falsely repented, promising to leave David alone but would go back to pursuing David as if he were addicted. Moreover, every time Saul went after David he was putting himself at greater enmity with the Lord, until it got to the point where the Lord stopped communicating with Saul as his day of destruction drew near (1 Samuel 28). Galatians 6:7-8 is not the only Scripture that speaks about people reaping what they have sown. This is among many Scriptures that speaks to a narcissist’s fate, ‘…the day of theLord is near upon all the heathen: as thou hast done, it shall be done unto thee: thy reward shall return upon thine own head.’ ~ Obadiah 15 (KJV)

 

  • “When a man’s ways please theLord, He maketh even his enemies to be at peace with him.” ~ Proverbs 16:7 (KJV) However, that does not mean you will or should become friends with your enemies. So, do not let a narcissist deceive by saying, “Let’s just be friends.” That is a covert way for a narcissist to maintain a foothold in your life. Narcissists do not respect boundaries, to include legal ones, so you have to vigilantly enforce and reinforce your boundaries with a narcissist. That includes if/when he or she accuses you of being unforgiving because you refuse to maintain a relationship with him or her. Again, forgiveness does not mean reconciliation. You know how a narcissist causes confusion and loves to (try to) disturb your peace. Remember, “…God is not the author of confusion, but of peace…” ~ 1 Corinthians 14:33 (KJV) It is good to have friends, but a friend will not try to destroy you and/or your relationship with the Lord. If possible, your best bet is to avoid all contact with a narcissist, and his or her family and friends. If you are co-parenting with a narcissist, limit contact and compartmentalize your relationship…

 

  • Jesus said, ‘Ye have heard that it hath been said, ‘Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.’ But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for He maketh His sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust. For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? Do not even the publicans the same? And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? Do not even the publicans so? Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.’ ~ Matthew 5:43-48 (KJV)

I was inspired to say a whole lot more than I thought, which is how things usually work out anyhow. In closing, never forget that a narcissist is an insidious enemy, one who is constantly seeking ways to control you, to include by using fear, obligation, and/or guilt to get you to maintain some form of relationship with him or her. Even though not always physically abusive, at a minimum, a narcissist is mentally abusive, which is harder to discern, even when being initially subjected to it. But that is a part of how the narcissist gains “narcissistic supply”. It is thrilling for a narcissist to do things, especially in plain sight, and get away with it. However, despite a narcissist’s destructive behavior, forgive him or her, and remember that forgiveness does not mean reconciling. You cannot reconcile a “relationship” with someone who has not changed, especially when the person is trying to lure you back in, get you under his or her control, and then punish you. I exhort you, “Lest satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices.” ~ 2 Corinthians 2:11 (KJV)

Anatomy of a Heartbreak: When SAMson met Delilah
A narrative of recovering from heartbreak and reaching Jesus in the process.

P.S. Please note that I use both genders when referring to narcissists. Many people erroneously believe that only women suffer abuse at the hands of a narcissist. But some women are narcissists too. Many men have suffered narcissistic abuse from their mothers and/or women they have been in relationships with, to include professional and platonic relationships. I can testify that I have had several encounters with narcissistic women, before I truly knew what narcissism was. You may have read the things I wrote in 2016 regarding narcissism and thought I was finished, as did I. But I recently received a testimony from a man who reached out to me and it reignited the fire in me to keep addressing the issue. I commend him for that because men who have suffered or are suffering abuse typically suffer in silence. When many people hear about someone being in an abusive relationship, they usually look at the man as being the abuser. The Lord has used that man to inspire me to address the spirit of narcissism in accordance with Ephesians 6:12. There is one thing the Lord and the devil knows about me is that I will speak up, even when people don’t listen. Sadly, many people who are experiencing narcissistic abuse usually feel as if their plight is unseen and unheard…

Breakthrough: When Jesus Sets You Free
Breakthrough: When Jesus Sets You Free

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The Jokes Are Over

Ironically, some comedians make people laugh yet they secretly struggle with depression that is masked by their smiles, sense of humor, and charisma. Similarly, many ministers who preach about being holy unto the Lord, struggle with “secret” sins that are masked by their titles, eloquence, and liturgical attire. Ministers are not immune to the devil’s fiery darts. In fact, they are frequently targeted because when a devil smites the shepherd it expects the sheep to scatter (Zechariah 13:7).

By the way, the terms shepherd and sheep are symbolic of the type of relationship. However, we are people and we need to look out for each other, and that includes the congregation looking out for the shepherd. Don’t hug your pastor on the way in or out of church without doctrinally confronting him about the smell of alcohol coming from his pores. In addition, do not remain silent or excuse any other verifiable bad behavior from the clergy (or fellow congregants). If you won’t confront the issues, at least stop partaking in them and get out of that environment (ministry). Would you drink water from a toilet bowl? If you answered no, which I hope you did, I hope you will not drink living waters from a known contaminated vessel (minister) either.

When the Lord asks a question, make no mistake about it, He already knows the answer. The Lord had warned Cain that sin was crouching at his door but he must rule over it, yet he killed his brother Abel. When the Lord asked Cain where his brother was, he retorted, ‘I know not: Am I my brother’s keeper?’ ~ Genesis 4:9 (KJV) Cain soon found out that was the wrong answer. So please, look out for your brothers and sisters in Christ.

In closing, when confronting issues in the church, please keep the following in mind:

  • “Against an elder receive not an accusation, but before two or three witnesses. Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear.” ~ 1 Timothy 5:19-20 (KJV)

 

  • Jesus said,Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.’ ~ Matthew 18:15-17 (KJV)

Be your brother’s keeper because many Christians are fighting tremendous battles, alone. “For WE wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.” ~ Ephesians 6:12 (KJV) Elijah, a prophet who could call down fire from heaven, was wrestling with the enemy and he felt so alone in the fight that he wanted to give up and die (1 Kings 19). Let US wrestle the enemy, together. As the saying goes, “united we stand, divided we fall” so please do not allow the enemy to “divide and conquer” your brothers and sisters in Christ.

Confrontation

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Minister to the People

Masculinity  

Ladies,

Do not allow ministry to cause you to lose your femininity, which is in part due to the acquisition of spiritual pride.

There are many women in various forms of ministry today. That is in part because many men have not fulfilled their calling and responsibilities, to include being the spiritual head of the household (Ephesians 5:22-24). Similarly, Jesus’s initial disciples were sent to preach the gospel to the Jews, but because of rejection, many were sent to the Gentiles instead (Acts 13:46). Many women have had to pick up the slack because men have slacked off.

Don’t get me wrong because I am not saying that women have no business being ministers. The Lord has used women as His ministers throughout the ages. Deborah was a prophetess and judge over Israel (Judges 4), Huldah was a prophetess (2 Kings 22), as was Isaiah’s wife (Isaiah 8:3) and Anna (Luke 2:36). Moses’s sister, Miriam, was also a prophetess (Exodus 15:20). But we see how the Lord disciplined her when she and their brother Aaron, the high priest and a prophet, rose up against Moses because of his interracial marriage (Numbers 12). Miriam was a prophetess but she made the mistake of trying to usurp Moses’s God-given authority, which was greater than hers. Miriam had exceeded the boundaries of her ministry by trying to incite a rebellion against Moses, a humble man whose walk was upright in the sight of the Lord, despite Miriam’s opinions.

A part of apostleship is establishing and enforcing doctrine within Christianity. The Lord used Paul, an apostle and Pharisee (student of the Law), mightily in this manner. The apostle Paul made some comments that can be viewed as sexist in today’s environment (1 Timothy 2:12). But the failure to adhere to those standards has contributed to some women ministers losing their femininity. Quite frankly, some have lost their minds because the power has gone to their heads, oftentimes because of immaturity, and like Miriam, the refusal to submit to authority. The following warning applies to male and female ministers: “Not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride he fall into the condemnation of the devil.” ~ 1 Timothy 3:6 (KJV)

I know of some strong women ministers who have not lost their femininity. Consequently, they have not lost my respect, which means I listen to what they have to say and support their ministries. Sadly, and conversely, I have seen too many women who are conducting themselves as men, in a manner reminiscent of Jezebel (1 Kings 21). Deborah and Huldah were prophetesses who were married, but they had to be wives to their husbands instead of their masters. They had to balance delivering the Word of the Lord with authority yet submitting to their husbands, thereby treating them with respect and dignity.

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One of the repercussions of women who lose their femininity, as a result of ministry, is they oftentimes lose their ability to enter into or stay in a relationship with a man. They may be able to find and keep a man like king Ahab, one who will tolerate the ungodly role reversal, but they will rebel against someone like a Jehu who wants to maintain the Lord’s order. One of the reasons men will avoid masculine women is because it will be like being in a relationship with another man. A Godly man will seek a Godly woman but he will avoid and reject the ones who are simply too masculine. One of the signs of a masculine woman is one who refuses to tone things downs and believes a man has to be strong to “handle her”. Men are not interested in being in a power struggle with a woman in a relationship. Men value being respected and certain actions from women will come across as a challenge to their authority, as if it were coming from another man. Ladies, you do not want a man to treat you like a man, or at least I hope you don’t.

Since I have stirred up the proverbial hornets’ nest, let me also address another aspect of women in ministry, and that is them serving in positions the Bible clearly states is reserved for men. Is there a shortage of male ministers in the church why women are appointed as bishops (the senior pastor or overseer)? My Bible says:

“This is a true saying, if a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work. A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach; Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous; One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity; (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?) …And let these also first be proved; then let them use the office of a deacon, being found blameless. Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things. Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.” ~ 1 Timothy 3:1-5, 10-12 (KJV)

By the way, I am also going to state the obvious, because based on those standards, and the others I excluded from that chapter, many men are not qualified to be bishops or deacons either. Note how the apostle Paul was inspired to stress the importance of men maintaining headship of their homes. If the men cannot maintain headship of their homes, things do not bode well for the churches they will be entrusted to oversee. That is one of the reasons why men, especially those who are on track for those positions, will reject masculine women who will sabotage their ministry unto the Lord.

Humble Pie
The Lord exalts the humble.

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Are you a prophet in the cave/wilderness?

“One-Strike Rule”    

Please, study the Scriptures to ensure no one deceives you, especially with blatant false prophecies, such as those who predict “the rapture” date. Many have tried and all have failed; yet people still keep believing and trusting in those false prophets, to include after their “prophecies” fail to come to pass.

Many prophets are deceived, which means they will deceive others because it is a case of the blind leading the blind. Some “prophets” are deceived because the Lord never called them, they don’t know the Word of God, or they know the Bible but they don’t know Jesus. Some prophets are outright liars who make things up for selfish reasons, without even being seduced by demons. Others fall prey to seducing spirits and they do not test the spirit (1 John 4:1) before making a proclamation in the name of the Lord. I have a “one-strike rule” when it comes to prophets, you miss it once or you intentionally try to mislead me and you are done. Some “prophets” won’t even get a chance with me, especially when the Holy Spirit exposes them beforehand. By the way, the devil has tried testing me on this, as if I am joking. But I don’t play games with prophetic ministry.

When it comes to rapture dates, it contradicts when Jesus said, ‘Watch therefore, for ye know neither the day nor the hour wherein the Son of man cometh.’ ~ Matthew 25:13 (KJV) In addition, the following significant event is a precursor to the rapture:

“That ye be not soon shaken in mind, or be troubled, neither by spirit, nor by word, nor by letter as from us, as that the day of Christ is at hand. Let no man deceive you by any means: for that day shall not come, except there come a falling away first, and that man of sin be revealed, the son of perdition [the antichrist]; Who opposeth and exalteth himself above all that is called God, or that is worshipped; so that he as God sitteth in the temple of God, shewing himself that he is God.” ~ 2 Thessalonians 2:2-4 (KJV)

While there are many antichrists, the antichrist has not been revealed yet, at least not to the public. As a result, especially until then, let no one deceive you. Many people who are boldly contradicting the Word of God by making predictions about the rapture are under the following delusion:

“And then shall that wicked be revealed, whom the Lord shall consume with the Spirit of His mouth, and shall destroy with the brightness of His coming: Even him, whose coming is after the working of satan with all power and signs and lying wonders, and with all deceivableness of unrighteousness in them that perish; because they received not the love of the truth, that they might be saved. And for this cause God shall send them strong delusion, that they should believe a lie: That they all might be damned who believed not the truth, but had pleasure in unrighteousness.” ~ 2 Thessalonians 2:8-12 (KJV)

There are some false prophets who are working with demonic powers, but most are simply phonies seeking attention. I have had to wrestle with many demons, to include in people, who tried to get me to do things that may have initially sounded good, but soon became apparent that I would have gone out of the Lord’s will. As a result, one of the things I have learned to do is keep my mouth shut, especially because I know how a false prophecy can ruin a person’s life, and possibly his or her relationship with the Lord. So many people have had to deal with the disappointment of looking up for the Lord to rescue them on a certain date from this fallen world. Yes, do what Jesus said and watch. However, rather than looking up in the sky, watch for people who need your help, those who need to hear the gospel of Christ so they too may be saved. Rather than looking up in the sky, “Preach the Word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all long suffering and doctrine. For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; and they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables. But watch thou in all things, endure afflictions, do the work of an evangelist, make full proof of thy ministry.” ~ 2 Timothy 4:2-5 (KJV)

In closing, rather than focusing so much on your escape plan, “do the work of an evangelist” and distance yourself from those false prophets, and rebuke them if necessary. Do not allow anyone to deceive you more than once or you go from being a victim to an accomplice.

Ravening Wolves

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Anatomy of a Heartbreak: When SAMson met Delilah

Relationship Nuggets

Motivated  

 Deeds are more important than words, but a person’s motives outweigh both. Many people say and do seemingly good things but with very sinister motives.

 

The Gift of Love  

It is hard to love a person who hates him or herself.

It is hard to love another when you don’t love yourself.

It is hard to love another when you are in love with yourself.

 

Broken Edges  

Two broken people in a relationship usually result in both getting cut from their sharp edges. Become whole before you try to unite two people as one.

 

Pieces  

When two people or groups are fighting against each other, while using the Lord’s name, either one or both of them are wrong. “For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints.” ~ 1 Corinthians 14:33 (KJV)

 

Willing & Able  

A relationship consists of two people who are willing and able to give 100% of themselves to each other. When both people are giving 100%, no one gets left out, unless the other person’s 100% is simply not enough. But sometimes a giver’s insufficient 100% is because the recipient needs to heal. If not, it is like pouring into a cup with a hole at the bottom that either never gets filled or won’t stay filled. It is worthy to note that a healthy person does not want to be in a parasitic relationship.

Never commit (relationship) idolatry by seeking something from a person that only the Lord can and should provide. You are going to lose yourself and a whole lot more if you seek your identity in anything or anyone else besides Christ.

It is better to be happy and single instead of married and miserable. Reject anyone who negatively impacts your relationship with the Lord. When the Lord removes people from your life, or allows them to leave*, it is because they have no place in your future. You will know because your life will be better without them, and quite frankly, their lives will be better off without you. It is idolatrous if you are pining over someone who is not yearning for you, a case of unrequited love (or actually, lust). Like the idols that have been made of false gods, when people pour out their heart and soul to those images, all they receive in return is a blank stare.

*Note: Joseph was going to quietly divorce Mary but the Lord intervened because his destiny was divinely connected to Mary and the then unborn Jesus. Mary did not have to do anything, except get out of the Lord’s way for His will to be done (Matthew 1:18-25).

 

“SONblocked”

August 21, 2016 was the day of the once-in-a-lifetime solar eclipse. Well, I went outside and a thick blanket of dark clouds was blocking the sun. For me, it was a reminder to trust what God blocks and don’t try to resurrect what He has allowed to die or even killed (2 Samuel 12:14-15). I did not personally witness the eclipse yet I did not feel as if I missed anything. Missing the opportunity did not mean my life was over.

The Sound of a Fallen Tree
A collection of poetry about heartbreak.

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Eclipse of The Heart  

Prince Charming met Cinderella when she was looking her absolute best, stunning. But it was not her looks that left an indelible mark on him; it was her character. As a result, when he reconnected with her after an extensive search, he did not see the external image he had seen before. Yet, he was not disappointed or deterred because she had retained what mattered the most, her character. The prince confirmed her identity by having her try on the only reminder he had of the woman who had captivated him at the ball, the glass slipper. The glass slipper was another thing that set her apart from all the other women in the kingdom. It was custom made for her so it fit her feet perfectly and effortlessly. And such is love, it is transparent as glass and it does not hurt when it is the right fit. The glass slipper is also symbolic of how the prince could see the character of the woman he desired, despite her outward appearance. Love is clearly unwavering.

By the way, ladies, please take note of how the prince held on to the only remnant he had of the woman he had fallen for, and he searched for her. Ladies, you never have to spend time pursuing a man who has your “glass slipper”. If he has your number but never calls, your social media account(s) and never checks or comments… I hope you get the picture. If a man has your “glass slipper”, and he knows you are interested in him, yet he is not pursuing you, don’t ever pursue him. Never walk a mile for a man who would never walk across the street for you; Prince Charming scoured the kingdom in his search for Cinderella. When you read the Book of Ruth, take a look at how Boaz reacted after Ruth expressed an interest in being in a relationship with him; Ruth never pursued Boaz and she never had to (Ruth 2-3). After all, “The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord.” ~ Proverbs 18:22 (NLT) A woman who pursues a man will find misery, in part because he won’t treasure her.

As a Christian, whether a man or woman, do not commit idolatry by pursuing a relationship with a person instead of the Lord. If you cannot let go of a person, surrender him or her to the Lord, that person has become an idol (a god) in your life. If a person permeates your thoughts more than the Lord, that person may be a god in your life. It is idolatry if getting into a relationship, to include marriage, is more important to you than being with the Lord. If you are trying to make someone be with you, especially when the person clearly has no interest in you, that person has become an idol in your life, the god you truly worship. That includes even if you believe the Lord told you the individual is going to be your spouse; I recommend that you read Genesis 24:1-9 and meditate on the eighth verse. The Lord is not going to violate anyone’s free will, so woe unto you if you do, or if you try. If you are trying to resurrect a relationship the Lord has allowed to die, not only is that person a god in your life, you have become the god of your life. I could provide more examples of idolatrous relationships, or attempts to be in such relationships, but I leave you with the following Words from the Lord:

‘You must not have any other god but Me. You must not make for yourself an idol of any kind or an image of anything in the heavens or on the earth or in the sea. You must not bow down to them or worship them, for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God who will not tolerate your affection for any other gods. I lay the sins of the parents upon their children; the entire family is affected—even children in the third and fourth generations of those who reject Me. But I lavish unfailing love for a thousand generations on those who love Me and obey My commands.’ ~ Exodus 20:3-6 (NLT)

 

Anatomy of a Heartbreak: When SAMson met Delilah
A narrative of recovering from heartbreak and reaching Jesus in the process.

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Anatomy of a Heartbreak: When SAMson met Delilah

Love Notes

Love Notes: Rest in Peace  

Do not stay in an abusive relationship because of the lack of physical violence. “Death and life are in the power of the tongue…” ~ Proverbs 18:21a (KJV) Stress is a slow and silent killer that contributes to a multitude of signs and symptoms. Get rid of the stressors before they get rid of you. God has called you to peace; Jesus is the Prince of Peace.

 

Love Notes: If…  

If you knew what some people went through in their relationship you would never encourage them to stay in or return to it.

  

Love Notes: Narc  

If you are in a relationship and you finally discover that your partner is a narcissist, create an exit plan, and when you leave, do not return. By the way, even if you are in love with a narcissist, despite the abuses, one of the best things a narcissist can do for you is dump you. For a narcissist, a relationship is usually not over until he or she says it is over, which is why it is usually better for the narcissist to leave. Sadly, many narcissists will stay in a relationship because they get pleasure from seeing or making others suffer.

Get to know the signs of narcissism, both for yourself and to help others who are enduring narcissistic abuse. One of the major signs of narcissism is a lack of empathy for others but the narcissist will want empathy from others.

By the way, there are various types of narcissists and degrees of narcissism. The degree of narcissism basically determines how fast the person will suck the life out of you if you remain in the relationship.

The Sound of a Fallen Tree
A collection of poetry about heartbreak.

Love Notes: Snapdragon 

Be careful of any relationship where the other person brings out the worst in you and causes you to act out of character.

Several years ago, a minister met his estranged wife (a fellow minister) in an effort to rekindle their relationship. Things did not go well because the male minister was later arrested for aggravated assault. They subsequently divorced and she is still single but he married another minister. His first marriage lasted 6 years and it may have seemed as if he had anger management issues. But he has since been married for almost 8 years and there have been no such publicly disclosed information regarding him being violent.

Sometimes the victim is actually the victimizer; the seemingly dedicated and loving spouse is the one who pushed the other to the brink. The one who got physically abused was the one who had been emotionally abusive. Take note of how Jesus preached about peace, and He is the Prince of Peace, but it was like He snapped when He saw how they had turned His father’s house into a den of thieves. Various Scriptures tell us that God is slow to anger, which means He does get angry. God is love, and He is very patient, but there comes a time when He will no longer tolerate certain things and He will use His rod of correction.

The following is a cautionary tale based on the Lord’s character to be careful about making someone who is greater in power than you angry. “The Lord is slow to anger, and great in power, and will not at all acquit the wicked: the Lord hath His way in the whirlwind and in the storm, and the clouds are the dust of His feet.” ~ Nahum 1:3 (KJV)

As was the case with the previously mentioned male minister, when someone acts out of character, look at the reason for such a reaction. Sometimes the “victim” sowed the wind and reaped the whirlwind. So, like the Lord said, ‘Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.’ ~ John 7:24 (KJV)

This is especially for the ladies, if you get into an argument with a man and he tells you to be quiet, or he walks away, hold your peace and do not go after him. If you let your emotions get the best of you in the heat of the moment and do not hold your peace, he may not be able to control his emotions and hold his peace either. Keep in mind that when two small flames come in contact they will create a bigger fire. Also consider this. Would you jump into a lions’ den with a piece of steak wrapped around your waist? If you would, I hope you would do so after the lions have had a huge meal and are taking a nap. Well, an angry man who is trying to walk away is like a hungry lion.

This month (August) marks the anniversary of when the United States dropped two atomic bombs on Japan. But the devastation started when the Japanese awoken a sleeping fire-breathing giant that had been reluctant to enter into World War II by its attack on Pearl Harbor, Hawaii. One of the most prolific quotes from WWII was, ‘May God have mercy upon my enemies, because I won’t.’ ~ General George S. Patton The Japanese naval admiral Isoroku Yamamoto is credited with saying after that fateful attack, I fear all we have done is to awaken a sleeping giant and fill him with a terrible resolve.’

Whether a man or woman, do not be a fire starter in a relationship and then complain when you get burned by the fire you started. Even God gets provoked to anger, and you would not like to be on the receiving end of His wrath.

I do not condone any form of abuse, but the example I provided of the two ministers is a reminder that two Christians can be unequally yoked, and even the meek can be provoked. Never assume that being with a fellow Christian means you are compatible. Judas was a Christian, yet the Lord made the following comment to His disciples regarding Judas, ‘Have not I chosen you twelve, and one of you is a devil?’ ~ John 6:70 (KJV)

 

 

 

Knowledge is Power (cover)

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The Lord does not always show you a person’s true colors for you to take the information to the individual in an effort to cause him or her to change. On the contrary, the revelation is for you to change how you interact with the individual. A herd of zebras getting ready to cross a river does not need to convince what they thought was a floating log that it is actually a crocodile. The crocodile already knew its identity and intentions while pretending to look like an innocuous log. But rather, it is the responsibility of the first zebra that positively identifies the log as a crocodile to alert the rest of the herd.

Knowledge gives you power over the enemy, especially when you demonstrate wisdom by wisely using the information. Moreover, the Lord give us knowledge because as He said, ‘My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge…’ ~ Hosea 4:6 (KJV)

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The Light exposes a person’s true colors.

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