“IDentifying YOUR God-Ordained Spouse, and the counterfeits”

Esau was hungry so he sold his birthright to his brother Jacob for some bread and a bowl of stew (Genesis 24:27-34). Sadly, many Christians are so hungry to get married that they have sold their souls to the devil in exchange for an idol, the possibility of getting married. In addition, like a double-edged sword, the devil has led many professing Christians into practicing witchcraft in an effort to get into, remain in, or rekindle a relationship with someone the Lord never intended. The frequent source of witchcraft is prayer that violates another person’s (free) will, and even God’s will. And to add to the mix, other (oftentimes) unsuspecting Christians come in agreement with the deceived individual to transmit witchcraft prayers. Like James said, “From whence come wars and fightings among you? Come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members? Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not. Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts.” ~ James 4:1-3 (KJV) When you pray amiss, the devil will gladly answer, for a price.

The following videos have some helpful hints on identifying your God-ordained spouse, unmasking the devil’s counterfeits that attempt to sabotage your destiny, and how to avoid engaging in witchcraft and recognizing when others are using it against you.

Part 1: https://youtu.be/eISTMrktxcs

Part 2: https://youtu.be/g-hAFrZg9P4

Roaring Lion (1 Peter 5-8)

Social Aloe Ministries: “Glorifying God. Exposing the devil.”





Relationships: Marital Dreams 

If you have a dream about getting married (even to the man or woman you have long desired), please test the spirit behind the dream to ensure it was from the Lord (1 John 4:1). While the Lord could reveal a future spouse to a person in a dream, the devil tries to corrupt or counterfeit the things of the Lord. Whereas a dream about marriage from the Lord may indicate a future spouse, or you entering into a covenant with Him, a dream from a devil has similar implications. If the Lord reveals your future spouse to you in a dream, it means He will bring you and that person together in due time. But if the dream is from the devil, it is meant for you to form a covenant with an impure spirit that will try its best to sabotage any Godly relationship you could ever hope to be in. The dream is also insidious if it involves having sex or even lying in bed with someone, both also represent forming and even renewing a covenant. Yes, devils are that sneaky and they will even try to ensnare you with a handshake in a dream.

Roaring Lion (1 Peter 5-8)

Renounce anything in your dreams that is not of the Lord to break any covenants you may have unknowingly formed with a devil. In some cases, a person who desires you may be dabbling in the occult in an effort to mislead you into believing he or she is your God-ordained spouse. The person may also partner with devils to misrepresent you and your God-ordained spouse to each other. The goal of such misrepresentation is to cause you to reject each other in real life. That is a counterfeit of the Lord using a dream to show you a person’s true colors, to include uncovering deceit. One of the telling signs that a dream was from the enemy is if it misrepresents what you, or unbiased third parties, know is true about a person’s character. Or, if you get to know the person, you will be able to discern that it was a slanderous dream from a devil. Based on personal experiences, when the Lord shows me a person’s true colors, whether in a dream or another method, the person usually does something very shortly afterwards unmask themselves, thereby confirming the Word of the Lord (see 1 Kings 14). For some people, the revelation from the Lord is a very good thing, but for others, it is the beginning of the end; they are finished, or at least I am.

This post is brought to you by real life experiences, and, 2 Corinthians 2:11, which states, “Lest satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices (KJV).”

Anatomy of a Heartbreak: When SAMson met Delilah
A narrative of recovering from heartbreak and reaching Jesus in the process.

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Anatomy of a Heartbreak: When SAMson met Delilah

Relationships Decoded


I do not share every “inspired thought” that I have. Moreover, when I share some of those thoughts, it may take a while for me to do so. The following epitomizes that because it has been “marinating” for three years (since 2014), which is like many of the unpublished (book) manuscripts that I have. However, I am sure that as I knock the virtual dust off this article before I present it to you, the Lord will have some revisions for me to make.

Relationships, or potential relationships, tend to get complicated when people do not say what they mean or mean what they say. The following is meant to help to decode what a person may truly be conveying in a relational construct.

In 2014, I posted something on my Kollin L. Taylor Facebook page that weighed heavily on my mind. The post was about coping with breakups; the oftentimes dreaded end to a relationship, especially one laden with a heavy investment of one’s time, efforts, and emotions. I do not believe we can make someone fall in love with us, but it only takes one thing to fall in love. In addition, that one thing gives us a reason to hold on and overlook or accept the other things that may not be very appealing. After all, love is about acceptance because no one is perfect, not even you. In God’s infinite wisdom, the one thing that attracts some people may be the very thing that repels others; it may cause you to get your heart broken yet it will save you from heartaches.

Regrettably, sometimes the “one thing” is because of a person’s perceived, contrived, or actual potential versus his/her performance. Many people have invested way too much time waiting for a person’s potential to become the desired performance. Oftentimes, that becomes a part of the recipe for disaster. While one person is fully vested into the relationship, the other person is not committed at all. So while one person is strapped into the “relationship” and willing to go full speed ahead, the other person is coasting with his/her foot on the brakes, seatbelt unbuckled, with the door partially open and ready to bail out. Many “relationships” have come to an abrupt end, but one person is still strapped into the passenger seat of that vehicle, rapidly going downhill, but refuses to acknowledge that the ride is over.

Before you find yourself riding solo in a “relationship”, to include one where the person is present in body only, let us open our eyes to the reality of the situation before the “vehicle” crashes and burns.

The Mouth Speaks


“It’s not you, it’s me.” – That may be a very accurate statement, especially if you loved and accepted the person for who he/she truly is, and you were fully vested. So, now it should be more obvious than ever that the feeling was not mutual, and neither is the level of commitment. This may be an excuse because he/she wants out of the relationship, but it is not necessarily because there is someone else. You may want to become a detective and find out why the person wants to leave, “for the sake of closure”, but it really does not matter why the person wants to leave. When a person wants to leave, step aside and let the person go. The time to dig into issues is if the person wants to return, that is the time for full disclosure because you cannot rebuild a relationship on a broken foundation. Sometimes a person leaves under this guise because of insecurities… But let me address the elephant in the room by saying that sometimes the issue is you. The person says, “It’s not you, it’s me” in an effort to preserve your dignity. In addition, the way you respond will prove whether the main issue was with you or the person. If you cannot stay on the high road during a breakup, if the issue was not with you, it most certainly is now. Your desire to fight for the relationship may backfire. Even if the person has been deceived into leaving the relationship, fighting for the relationship may put you at enmity with your former partner. Your efforts to help may come across as you being controlling. Take notes from the story of the father in the story of the prodigal son. He let his son go and allowed him to come to his senses, even if it meant losing his son forever (Luke 15:11-32). Sometimes when you let a person go, he/she may realize that it is best to return to be with you. But other times one or both of you may accept the fact that it was best for you to go your separate ways. When a person says, “It’s not you, it’s me”, your reaction will either substantiate or disprove it.

The Sound of a Fallen Tree
A collection of poetry about heartbreak.
“I’m not ready for a (committed) relationship…” – Sometimes this truly is the case, especially if the person initially stated it and then ended the relationship when things started getting too serious. It will not matter if you think you are God’s gift to the world if the person you desire is not ready to be in a (committed) relationship. Thinking someone will take down their walls or succumb to your God-given gifts can send you into a corner licking your wounds. Then there are times when the person is not ready for or wants to be in a relationship with you. You may find this out the hard way when the person leaves you and starts “hanging out” with someone else. I say “hanging out” because sometimes people are in a platonic relationship so it does not necessarily mean you were dumped for someone else. There are times when a person knows that being with you means that marriage is inevitable, and he/she is imply not ready for marriage and loves you enough to let you go.

Sadly, some people have had their heart broken when a person says he/she was not ready for a committed relationship then marries someone else within 6 months. Keep in mind that you are God’s gift to someone but not to everyone. A sign of maturity is to be happy for them and their marriage. A relationship will either work or it won’t. Many people are trying to force a relationship to work when it is best to part ways and work things out with someone better suited. One of the leading causes of divorce is an ill-advised marriage. It is never a good thing to try to force someone to be with you. In addition, you will inevitably devalue yourself while trying to prove your value to another. Rather than trying give yourself as an unwelcomed gift to another person, give that person the gift of goodbye instead. Do not bind yourself to someone who is not bound to you. If you do, your heart will get thrown down the jagged slopes like the Dolomite Mountains that I’ll refer to as “Heartbreak Ridge”.

Humble Pie
The Lord exalts the humble.
“I don’t want to ruin the friendship.” – Dating does not ruin friendships, immaturity does. There are relationships that ended badly, but because there was a foundation of friendship, those individuals rekindled that friendship. Some gave up on ever trying to have a romantic relationship, while others matured and may have gotten married later in life. While some friendships can turn into a romantic relationship, some people were simply meant to be friends and absolutely nothing beyond that. Do not exceed a boundary you were never meant to cross, and if you do, simply get back behind the line because it does not have to invalidate the friendship. By the way, I find it interesting that some people do not want to ruin a friendship by getting into a relationship. However, some of the most rewarding relationships are those where the partners say they are married to their best friend. Whatever position you are in, do not exceed a boundary you were never meant to cross. Do not try to turn a friend into a spouse when you were never meant to be in a romantic relationship. And please, do not call yourself a friend if you would block that person from being in a relationship with someone else because you do not want to lose the friendship. Or worse, you have secret feelings for your friend and you do not want him/her to be (happy) with someone else. Those kinds of things ruin friendships.

God, The Love of My Life (2)

“Let’s just be friends.” – This is great until your former partner is no longer friendly because all communications have ceased. Sure, there are friends that you may not have heard from in years, yet, when you see each other again, or communicate, it is like you pick up right where you left off. But it is another thing when the person deletes you from his/her contact list, blocks you, etc. By the way, and I should not have to say this, yet I must, you have crossed the line if someone blocks you so you resort to using another account to reach the person. It is even more egregious if you knowingly create a pseudo-account, or worse, pseudo-accounts, in response to being blocked and you insist on trying to be a part of that person’s life. Do not expect a former partner to want to be your friend when you resort to such craziness. Also, the person certainly will not want to rekindle a relationship with you when you DEMONstrate that you want to have them embroiled in a situation that is a crazy mess. Some relationships end but the former partners remain friends, which in some cases can help with recovering from being heartbroken. It takes maturity to remain friends with an “ex”. Sometimes the best course of action is no contact, either because of the crazy mess or maintaining contact the person would simply delay healing. However, it is another story to say, “Let’s just be friends”, when you don’t want to be friends at all. Be honest with yourself, and each other, say what you mean and mean what you say.

Wrongfully Accused
Even Jesus was wrongfully accused…
 “I want to be ‘young, wild, and free.’” – Let me break this down individually. Being young does not only apply to those who are under 30 for example. It also applies to someone who may have gotten married at 20, got divorced at 40, and feels like he/she missed out on something while being “tied down” in a relationship. However, one thing about life is that tomorrow is not guaranteed. A person may decide to eventually settle down at around age 35 but pass away at 34. Or, the incredible opportunities they had earlier in life are now met with “all the good ones are taken”. So rather than having a seemingly unlimited choice of who to be in a relationship with, the dating pool is left with “slim pickings”. It is worthy to note that if a person has just gotten divorced, that person may need time to heal before even entertaining the thought of dating. Don’t try to awaken a person’s love before the individual is ready (Song of Solomon 2:7, 3:5, 8:4).

We all need to enjoy life, but even solitary big cats have seasons when they desire companionship. By the way, the wild also has a lot of fleas. When people want to be wild they may get more than they bargained for.

I hope it is not just me, but I do not equate being in the right relationship with being in prison. On the other hand, being with the wrong person, now that is another story. I know there are some people who have to check in with their partner frequently or keep the “GPS” enabled. That is a relationship with a lack of trust. I am not a fool because I know there are cases where the trust that may have been given was lost. That is an issue for another time. However, let me say that if you cheated on your partner, you have to submit to extra measures to regain that person’s lost trust… The one thing all relationships have is the freedom to choose. You are free to choose and pay the price for your choices. Sometimes the price is actually a reward in the form of love. In other cases, the price for your decisions may include a visit to the health clinic, a paternity suit, divorce, etc. A relationship is not about being in bondage. It is about two people who are bonded by love, who are free to leave but choose to stay, and they work as individuals and as a team to elevate each other. Maybe I am idealistic, but a good relationship does not enslave us, it liberates us. The right relationship will bring out the best in you, and that is freedom.

Love Notes


“God said you’re my husband/wife.” – One of the most important decisions you will make in your life is who to marry. The Lord is the world’s best matchmaker so I highly recommend that you go with His choice of a spouse for you. However, you have to ensure you are hearing from the Lord regarding a potential spouse or it could be disastrous. I personally know of people who received such a revelation from the Lord, one of the couples has been married for 41 years. But I also personally know of people who were either deceived or blatantly lied while using the Lord’s name to advance a personal agenda.

When the Lord gives such a revelation, He will bring it to pass. One of the telltale signs that a potential relationship is not of the Lord is when one or both individuals are forcing the relationship to work. It gets even more obvious when one of the individuals is being manipulative or even forceful. If the Lord only initially reveals it to one of the people He has ordained to be together, the recipient of the message should never take the revelation and go to the individual and say, “The Lord said you are my husband/wife.” While it is okay to reveal it while courting, it should never be used as a way to try to force or manipulate a person into a relationship with you because the person does not want to disobey the Lord. After all, Jesus said, ‘If ye love Me, keep My commandments.’ ~ John 14:15 (KJV) If the Lord reveals the person He has ordained for you, it is not your responsibility to go and tell the person. But rather, it is up to the Lord to reveal it to that person and your future interactions will help to confirm or deny whether you are operating in the Lord’s will.


I could make this very short but it is too important for me to abbreviate. If you believe you have heard from the Lord about Him having ordained a particular person for you as your spouse, there are certain protocols you should follow. Here are some ways to separate “the one” from God versus the devil’s counterfeits:

  • Ensure you heard from the Lord instead of a seducing spirit, a devil sent to lead you and others astray. The devil knows that if he can deceive one person he can mislead generations, as was the case when he deceived Eve. In potential relationship, one deceived person immediately impacts four people. Ask the Lord for confirmation and then wait for it. Some people have received erroneous revelations from either the desires/idols of their heart or from a devil. Ask the Lord to confirm or deny the revelation (see Judges 6-7). If a person or marriage is an idol of your heart, it will make it difficult for you to receive correction from the Lord. If you do not heed the Word of the Lord, your efforts will eventually fail, which is why many Christian marriages get terminated in divorce court. I also recommend that you get confirmation independent of the potential spouse. You are most likely serving different gods if you receive different information regarding if the Lord has ordained the two of you to marry each other. “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” ~ Amos 3:3 (KJV) The answer is resounding no! Sadly, many people have been deceived to the point of wasting years waiting for a relationship with a person that will never happen. Arguably, it is even worse when one person pursues another, thinking the individual is his/her God-ordained spouse, yet the person is clearly not interested. It is also a clear indication that a potential relationship is not of the Lord if one person believes he/she needs to make the other person his. The following Words of the Lord apply to the relationships He ordains: ‘Not by might, nor by power, but by My Spirit.’ ~ Zechariah 4:6 (KJV)


  • If you are certain that the Lord confirmed the person is in fact the one, give the person to Him and take your hands off. Keep in mind that the Lord had promised Abraham a son, but after years of waiting, he took his wife’s awful suggestion to have a child with her servant. Do not create an “Ishmael” while waiting on your “Isaac”, the promise from the Lord. Also, the Lord did not deliver on His promise to Abraham until He later directly revealed it to Sarah, 24 years later (Genesis 17-18). That does not mean the Lord will tell the man first, but He will reveal His plans to both individuals either before they meet or at some point after. You have to wait for the Lord to tell the other person or you risk venturing into witchcraft. Do not pursue someone who the Lord has not prepared to receive you. When the Lord had finally blessed Abraham with Isaac, He later asked him to sacrifice his beloved son. Abraham was willing to comply and part ways with his son, forever (Genesis 22). If you are unwilling to part ways with the promise, your desire is for an idol instead of a spouse. Also, if you are not willing to wait on the Lord, your desire is for an idol instead of a spouse.


  • The Lord will prepare both individuals and bring them together, in His timing. The way the Lord brought Rebekah to Isaac is a great example; even outsiders could tell that the Lord had ordained the relationship (Genesis 24). The way the Lord united Ruth with Boaz is another great example. It also demonstrates that the Lord will present a woman to a man, just like how He brought Eve to Adam.


  • The Lord is a God of order. Men have the innate drive to pursue the woman he desires to marry. However, a Godly man, who is submitted to the Lord, will not pursue a woman until the Lord tells him to. So, if a woman is pursuing a man she is out of order and has ventured into what can be called “Jezebellion”. The Lord will present a woman to a man but it is the man who will pursue her. We see this when Naomi told Ruth to present herself to Boaz and then he pursued her (Ruth 2-4). A woman only needs to express an interest in a man once, and she should never try to pressure him to be in a relationship with her. One of the signs that a relationship is not of the Lord is the woman playing the masculine role by pursuing the man. Conversely, a man who is pursuing a woman who does not want to be pursued is also out of order. When the Amalekites had captured David’s family, he inquired of the Lord if he should pursue them, and if he would be successful (1 Samuel 30). He did not make a move until he received the Lord’s permission, so he received the Lord’s blessings. If you pursue someone and fail, you need to seek the Lord to see if you “jumped the gun”, or, if that was your wake-up call that you have been pursuing the wrong person.


  • The Lord unites people for a purpose (Ruth 4), but there will be a mutual attraction, especially on a spiritual level (Ruth 2). If the attraction is not mutual, the potential relationship is not of the Lord. The Lord’s purpose is why God-ordained relationships come under so much attack, oftentimes before the two people even meet. Take note that shortly after the Lord told Abraham and Sarah that He was going to bless them with the promised child within a year, Sarah was taken into the king of Gerar’s harem (Genesis 20). But because the Lord had a promise to fulfill, He intervened. Abraham did not have to do anything; the Lord had made a promise and was going to ensure it came to pass. The Lord sustains what He ordains, which is why some marriages end in divorce, to include some that had been declared as being God-ordained. Moreover, the way Sarah was captured when she was on the verge of becoming pregnant with the Lord’s promise is the way the devil may attack your promise from the Lord. You need the Lord’s help to discern when he is directing you versus when the devil is trying to misdirect you.


  • If you have multiple people approaching you claiming to be your God-ordained spouse, that is a major red flag. The Lord is not the author of confusion, but of peace. As a result, the Lord will give you His peace about the person He has selected for you, and there will only be one. The Lord’s peace transcends understanding. As a result, you may have an affinity for someone with a certain hair color but the Lord shows you a person with a different hair color. But because it is from the Lord, even though you may need time to let your preconceived notions go, the hair color won’t be a deal breaker as when you were operating out of your flesh. It is also a major red flag if you are confused about multiple people possibly being the person the Lord has ordained for you. The Lord will clear any confusion by revealing Himself in the both of you to each other. So, for example, you could be at a convention with 10,000 other people who all love Christ, but He may show you someone who seems more Christ like than anyone else. Some people have even observed a heavenly light around the person the Lord is illuminating to them. While one person can have an obsession for another person, which is unhealthy, the person the Lord shows you will become the standard-bearer so to speak. It is like the person is deposited into your heart and keeps others out. It takes a relationship with the Lord to determine if the feeling is because of a carnal obsession or a divine ordination. Again, one of the ways to discern is your willingness to hand the person and the situation over to the Lord and wait on Him to bring the two of you together.


  • While the stories of Adam and Eve and Isaac and Rebekah getting married on the day they met is great, you need to take time to get to know the person you believe is your God-ordained spouse. You have to enjoy each other’s company. Sometimes it is so easy to spot two people who should never be together. When Jesus told the parable of the sower, He mentioned the various conditions that could impact the growth of the seed, which is the Word of God (Luke 8). Similarly, relationships can be like those conditions. Some people ended up with someone who took them away from the Lord’s purpose, like the birds (devils) that snatched the seeds. Some people are like the seeds on the rocks because the relationship starts off with potential but lacks depth to last. Other people are like the stifling thorns that keep the other person from ever truly growing into their Godly purpose. But when a person is in a Godly relationship, the fruits are evident and both people look like they are thriving. You can help to identify whether a person is a potential God-ordained spouse based on how the person impacts your relationship with the Lord. Anyone who comes to steal, kill, or destroy is a counterfeit from the devil.


  • A person can claim to be your God-ordained spouse until the day he/she dies, but that does not mean it is a fact. Some people have been deceived while others are willing emissaries of the devil. Ensure you have a relationship with the Lord so you can hear from Him for yourself. You do not want to be the deceiver or be deceived. The Lord is not going to send someone to you who will be an idol to you or someone who will destroy your relationship with Him. Using the Lord’s name will only get a person so far. Most likely, the Lord will warn you about a person’s intentions beforehand. So please, ensure you are listening to the Lord and obeying Him instead of a forked tongue suitor. You will know people by their fruits and some people are using the Lord’s name to get into relationships while acting like the devil. If you outright reject a person claiming to be your gift from God, or tell the person that you need time to seek the Lord for yourself, but his/her reaction is ungodly, get away from that person. A person who does not respect you does not respect the Lord either. When you give something to the Lord and He wants you to have it, He will give it back to you. When you love the Lord, you will spend more time pursuing Him instead of a potential spouse

Second Chances: Worthy of Redemption
Love conquers all.
Whether you are a man or a woman, have nothing to do with a person who does not respect your boundaries, and especially someone who does not respect the Lord’s boundaries. You do not want to be in a relationship with a professing “God-ordained spouse” who does not respect you or your God. When the Lord plans and ordains something, He brings it to pass (Isaiah 55:8-11, 37:26, etc.). A person does not have to announce to you that the Lord said you are his/her God-ordained spouse. If you give the person a chance, even in a casual conversation in a group setting, the Lord will make His presence or His absence felt. I have heard people say they had no prior revelations from the Lord, but within 15 minutes of having a conversation with the person, they knew he/she was “the one”. The opposite is also true where it may be readily apparent that the person is not “the one”, and all that person can do from that point forward is to keep substantiating that revelation.

There are times when a person claims to be your God-ordained spouse, and the truth is, the person is desperate. The person knows the only chance he or she has of ever being in a relationship with you is to use your love for the Lord against you. When the Lord ordains a relationship, despite the struggles, it is like being in heaven on earth. However, a demonically arranged union is a living hell. You will know a person by his or her fruits, and one of the fruit of the Holy Spirit is longsuffering (patience). As a result, a person who receives such a revelation will demonstrate the requisite patience to wait on the Lord to confirm or deny the revelation to the other person, with no interference. And if the revelation is from the Lord, he/she will wait on the Lord for howsoever long He takes to bring things to pass. If a plane is coming in for a landing, and there are any obstacles in the way, the air traffic controller will either put the plane in a waiting pattern or reroute it. Air traffic control is responsible for getting the airplane to land and then get if off the active runway, and then ground control takes over and directs the plane to the gate. The Lord does all of that to bring two people together. As a result, sometimes the Lord may have you in a holding pattern to clear the way for you to approach the other person. If you do too soon, it will be disastrous.


Sadly, the devil likes to corrupt the things of the Lord. That is a part of why some people try to rush things by claiming to be another person’s God-ordained spouse, and then get offended when they get shot down or crash because they run out of fuel. The Lord sustains what He ordains. If the wrong plane gets to a gate, it will prevent the right plane from being able to get there. That is why some people are in a holding pattern, waiting for the opportunity to be with their God-ordained spouse. The devil may have temporarily disrupted things but the Lord’s will be done. Keep in mind that when king Abimelech had captured Sarah, the Lord did not allow him to go in unto her (Genesis 20:6). He was like the devil’s plane that was occupying Abraham’s gate so the Lord moved him out of the way.

By the way, if I had to patiently wait for three years to be able to post this, doesn’t it make sense to wait on the Lord to give you the clearance to pursue a relationship with someone? There are things I was inspired to add to this that I would have had a hard time believing if I had not witnessed them myself. Some of you will be shocked to hear what your God-ordained spouse has been through before getting to you. In some cases, you missed the opportunity to be together in the past so the Lord had to bring the plane around for another landing. Unfortunately, when that happens, that flight gets pushed to the back of the flight order. So while you attended a wedding or two as a bridesmaid/groomsman, you had been in line to be a bride/groom at the time. Do not allow the devil to snatch the seeds away from you or your future spouse. When you pray for your future spouse, ask the Lord to prevent the person from being deceived and even illegally detained by the devil via one of his counterfeits. Jacob worked seven years to be with his beloved Rachel but was deceived into being with Leah instead (Genesis 29). Whether you are a man or a woman, do not sit back and let a “Leah” (man or woman) get to your “Jacob” (man or woman) before you. Pray for the person the Lord has ordained for you to marry, especially since the devil may have people praying against that future marriage.

 On Trial A Test of My Faith_1

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Many people are doing things in the name of love that may strike your emotions as being a beautiful thing. You may even say that God is love so if something is based on love then the Lord must approve. However, there are different types of love, to include a love of sin. A person who loves sin (and does not want to repent) hates God, even if they profess to love Him. My words may seem hateful, so here are a few things the Word of the Lord has to say on this matter:


  • “For whoso findeth Me findeth life, and shall obtain favour of theLord. But he that sinneth against Me wrongeth his own soul: all they that hate Me love death.” ~ Proverbs 8:35-36 (KJV)


  • “I speak after the manner of men because of the infirmity of your flesh: for as ye have yielded your members servants to uncleanness and to iniquity unto iniquity; even so now yield your members servants to righteousness unto holiness.For when ye were the servants of sin, ye were free from righteousness. What fruit had ye then in those things whereof ye are now ashamed? For the end of those things is death. But now being made free from sin, and become servants to God, ye have your fruit unto holiness, and the end everlasting life. For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” ~ Romans 6:19-23 (KJV)


  • ‘If ye love Me, keep My commandments.’ ~ Jesus (John 14:15 (KJV)


If you love anything more than you love the Lord, that thing is an idol. ‘…Thou shalt worship no other god: for the Lord, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God.’ ~ Exodus 34:14 (KJV) The Lord is jealous, but He will let you go if that is your desire. Yet, before you go have a love affair with sin, or approve of other people’s sinful behavior, heed the Word of the Lord:


Thou shalt have no other gods before Me. Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image, or any likeness of any thing that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth. Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the Lord thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate Me; and shewing mercy unto thousands of them that love Me, and keep My commandments.’ ~ Exodus 20:3-6 (KJV)


God is love, which is why He is giving everyone time to repent before it’s too late. For “…the heavens and the earth, which are now, by the same Word are kept in store, reserved unto fire against the day of judgment and perdition of ungodly men. But, beloved, be not ignorant of this one thing, that one day is with the Lord as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day. The Lord is not slack concerning His promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance. But the day of the Lord will come as a thief in the night; in the which the heavens shall pass away with a great noise, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat, the earth also and the works that are therein shall be burned up.” ~ 2 Peter 3:7-10 (KJV)


The wages of sin is death and payday is coming.


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Anatomy of a Heartbreak: When SAMson met Delilah

Murdering Your Marriage / Murder In Your Marriage  

God hates divorce, but it is better for Jesus to judge you as someone who got divorced instead of someone who murdered his or her spouse, or arguably even worse, a former spouse.

I say that in part because I have seen too many recent reports of relationships, to include former relationships, that ended in violence that exceeds the violence the Lord used to describe putting someone away (Malachi 2:16). I am not an advocate for getting divorced for trivial reasons. If you know me, you know my passion is to prevent people from getting in or returning to an ill-advised relationship in order to prevent getting divorced. A part of that passion stems from not wanting relationships to get bloody or deadly. Personally speaking, I prefer if two people got divorced, which makes it possible to reconcile, than for a person to commit murder. The Lord hates divorce, but we can deduce that He puts a greater priority on committing murder. Before we dive in, keep in mind that Jesus mentioned some people receiving “greater damnation” (Matthew 23:14), which is a part of why I was inspired to use the opening statement.

Some people have written off most of the Old Testament, but for me, it is an important part of understanding how the Lord thinks. Under the Law, people were permitted to get divorced, and it was much easier than today’s “no-fault” divorces (Deuteronomy 24:1-5). That was during a time when a person could have been stoned to death for committing adultery (Leviticus 20:10). Yet, getting divorced did not come with the death penalty. In fact, some of the things that result in people getting divorced today are things that would not have resulted in a divorce back, but only because the person would have been put to death instead. In today’s age, some people use righteousness to justify unrighteousness, to include killing a spouse, or even a former spouse, because they are keeping their vow before the Lord to stay with a person “until death do we part”. Well, if that is your thought process, you are going to be in for a rude awakening when you appear before the Lord with blood on your hands. You righteously strained out a gnat but swallowed a camel. Have you ever noticed that even though the Lord designed marriage for one man and one woman, His issue with king Solomon was not that he had 1,000 wives and concubines? But rather, the Lord rendered judgment against him when he started worshipping idols because of some of those women (1 Kings 11). Solomon could have avoided that issue with the Lord by divorcing the idolatrous women (see Ezra 9-10). Some failed marriages today are because the individuals, even professing Christians, are actually serving two different gods (see 2 Corinthians 6:14-18). That ladies and gentlemen is the epitome of what we now refer to as “irreconcilable differences” if one person will not renounce his or her god.

The Sound of a Fallen Tree
A collection of poetry about heartbreak.

Now that I have laid the foundation by speaking about divorce, let us examine some of the impacts of taking another person’s life. One of the Lord’s Ten Commandments is often translated as, ‘Thou shalt not kill.’ ~ Exodus 20:13 (KJV) But especially because the Lord commanded the Israelites to impose the death penalty on people such as false prophets (Deuteronomy 13:1-5) and witches (Exodus 22:18), a more accurate translation is “murder” instead of “kill” (Matthew 19:18). I would imagine back then that a false prophet or a witch would have preferred to accept a writ of divorcement instead of being put to death. After all, those practices, which the Lord classifies as abominations (Deuteronomy 18:9-11), fall under what was (and is still) considered a form of uncleanness that could get someone put away (Deuteronomy 24:1). But to examine the Lord’s sanctity on life, one of His most precious gifts to us, let us go back to Genesis 4 with the first murder. By the way, if you are reading this and you are having thoughts of murdering someone, this will serve as an indictment against you if you do not repent. This post is like the warning the Lord gave to Cain when jealousy was leading him astray. Do not confuse jealousy and love, especially when it produces evil thoughts, and subsequently, evil deeds. Your jealousy will always cause strife in any relationship you are in, for as it is written:

“But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth. This wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish. For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work. But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.” ~ James 3:14-18 (KJV)

Again, “For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.” ~ James 3:16 (KJV) That means your jealousy will result in you being the devilish hell raiser who brings strife and evil works to “relationships”. And if you are not careful, your jealousy will have you crying out like the victim when you were in fact the victimizer.

After Cain became jealous of his brother Abel, the Lord graciously warned Cain, as you are now being warned, that sin was crouching at his door but he must rule over it (Genesis 4:7). Cain fulfilled the evil desire of his heart and killed Abel. Do not be like Cain who ignored the warning and then complained about the severity of the Lord’s subsequent judgment:

“And He said, ‘What hast thou done? The voice of thy brother’s blood crieth unto Me from the ground. And now art thou cursed from the earth, which hath opened her mouth to receive thy brother’s blood from thy hand; When thou tillest the ground, it shall not henceforth yield unto thee her strength; a fugitive and a vagabond shalt thou be in the earth.’

And Cain said unto the Lord, ‘My punishment is greater than I can bear. Behold, Thou hast driven me out this day from the face of the earth; and from Thy face shall I be hid; and I shall be a fugitive and a vagabond in the earth; and it shall come to pass, that every one that findeth me shall slay me.’” ~ Genesis 4:10-14 (KJV)

That reminds me of how some people complain after a divorce is finalized, as if their former spouse victimized them, even though the spouse may have escaped from a devil instead… Also, let me add this caution because I know how the devil works. Do not entertain thoughts of doing something evil because you plan on simply going to the Lord and asking Him for forgiveness afterwards. Do not play games with the Lord because you will lose. One of the things I will also cover is how the Lord, who is very merciful, makes a distinction and has provisions for involuntary manslaughter (or killing someone in self-defense or to protect another) versus premeditated murder.

God, The Love of My Life (2)

After the flood, the Lord told Noah that they could eat animals in addition to fruits and vegetables. But the following instructions also indicate the value the Lord places on human life:

‘But flesh with the life thereof, which is the blood thereof, shall ye not eat. And surely your blood of your lives will I require; at the hand of every beast will I require it, and at the hand of man; at the hand of every man’s brother will I require the life of man. Whoso sheddeth man’s blood, by man shall his blood be shed: for in the image of God made he man.’ ~ Genesis 9:4-6 (KJV)

Please note that there were consequences for a person or animal that took the life of a human. In addition, centuries later, when the Lord gave His Laws to Moses, it included the following regarding taking another person’s life (Numbers 35:9-35):

A person who killed another could flee to a city of refuge the Lord had established and would be safe from those who sought vengeance (justice), until the killer was given a trial. If it was deemed that the person committed involuntary manslaughter, the individual had to remain within the boundaries of the city of refuge or be put to death. [You may want to consider that as a warning to not return to a bad relationship that the Lord has rescued you from.] On the contrary, a person who murdered another would be put to death because there would be no refuge. That should serve as an indication of what a person can expect if he or she is entertaining committing a sin with the intention of simply asking the Lord for forgiveness afterwards.


Do not try to make a mockery of the Lord’s grace because even His forgiveness will not absolve you of the consequences for your actions. David truly repented yet he and his family bore the consequences of his sinful actions (2 Samuel 11-19). Moses also benefitted from the city of refuge rule so to speak even prior to the Law. When Moses killed the Egyptian who was persecuting a fellow Hebrew, Moses fled to Midian. That is why “…the Lord said unto Moses in Midian, ‘Go, return into Egypt: for all the men are dead which sought thy life.’” ~ Exodus 4:19 (KJV)

The Lord also stressed His value of human life by imposing rules against animals that killed a person. For example:

‘If an ox gore a man or a woman, that they die: then the ox shall be surely stoned, and his flesh shall not be eaten; but the owner of the ox shall be quit. But if the ox were wont to push with his horn in time past, and it hath been testified to his owner, and he hath not kept him in, but that he hath killed a man or a woman; the ox shall be stoned, and his owner also shall be put to death.’ ~ Exodus 21:28-29 (KJV)

If you know someone who is contemplating harming or killing another, you may want to share this post with that individual. Do not think the Lord will hold you guiltless if you knew or could discern trouble but remained silent. If you are thinking of killing a spouse or former spouse because the marriage will not or did not last the lifetime you had hoped, nothing is worth burning in the lake of fire forever for. Just in case you did not know, or may have forgotten, ‘…the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.’ ~ Revelation 21:8 (KJV) You can recover after getting divorced or the dissolution of a non-marital relationship, but there is no escaping the lake of fire. It makes no sense for a person to go through a breakup where only a few people knew, and would have quickly forgotten, to include if the breakup was embarrassing, than to see the person in the national news for going on trial or to prison because of a jealous outburst. If you are burning with seemingly unquenchable anger and jealously now, you better extinguish it before you end up in a place where the fire is truly unquenchable (Matthew 3:12).

The Mouth Speaks

As stated in the beginning, a part of my inspiration for this is that too many people have tried to Lord over another person’s life, even to the point of taking it. You do not have the right to murder your spouse, and you deserve even “greater damnation” for murdering or attempting to murder an ex. If the person was an ex-spouse, it may demonstrate that the Lord allowed the divorce because a continued relationship would have ended in murder. As a result, He mercifully allowed a divorce in an effort to prevent having to send someone to hell, forever, for committing murder. You may find it distasteful for me to use the following in this context, but, “There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.” ~ 1 Corinthians 10:13 (KJV) If you do not want to end your relationship with jealousy and your murderous desires, the Lord may open the way for your spouse to depart from you. For as much as the Lord hates divorce, sometimes it is the way of escape to prevent from committing murder or getting murdered. Arguably, and you are free to disagree, it is better for a marriage to die so that both people may live and have a chance to see each other again in heaven.

Someone shared a story with me of a marriage that was terminated based on threats of violence. But I told the person that the threats were actually promises. After the marriage ended, the person who made those threats was later imprisoned for committing violence against another. I am quite sure I would have never had that conversation if the individual had stayed in the marriage. It also points to why the God, who hates divorce, may allow it because the victim of abuse may have had to resort to taking the other person’s life in self-defense. So rather than getting killed, the Lord is using the person who escaped from that marriage to help save other people’s lives by leading them to Christ. It reminds me of when Jesus said, ‘Wherefore I say unto thee, her sins, which are many, are forgiven; for she loved much: but to whom little is forgiven, the same loveth little.’ ~ Luke 7:47 (KJV) It is better to remove your wedding ring and move on with your life than to get a pair of “bracelets” from a police officer as you are escorted off to jail to live the rest of your life behind bars.

Many people end up in hell because they ignored warnings like this. But I will not get blood on my hands for not speaking out. I would much rather if a person gets sent to hell for ignoring the warning I was inspired to issue than to get sent there because I remained silent. But most of all, I would prefer if a person repents of the sinful thoughts that will eventually lead to sinful deeds. I prefer to offend you into heaven than to serenade you into hell.

“Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall.” ~ Proverbs 16:18 (KJV)


This is a recent example of a marriage that ended in murder, and suicide (which is a form of murder): http://people.com/crime/theresa-lockhart-michigan-teacher-husband-felt-victimized/

Sometimes you simply need to cut your loses and move on before things go too far. This woman could have gotten killed instead of arrested: http://www.policemag.com/channel/patrol/news/2017/10/24/video-fl-woman-stabs-off-duty-deputy-during-fight-with-ex.aspx?@{webtrack}@

I almost forgot, but I lost a family member because a jealous ex murdered him, his wife, and their daughter before hanging himself as told in “The Anatomy of a Heartbreak: When SAMson met Delilah”.

On Trial A Test of My Faith_1

Social Aloe Ministries: “Glorifying God. Exposing the devil.”


I met Linda a few months ago and she has been very supportive. During that short time, she has shared more of the things I have been inspired to post on this page, and my Social Aloe Ministries Facebook page, more so than most people. The crown for the most shares belongs to Santa in South Africa. As a local, one of the things Linda has had the opportunity to do is witness some of the ways the Lord uses me to minister to others when I am not being a “keyboard warrior” (for Christ). Some of those ministerial opportunities were because Linda was inspired to connect me with others, and then the Lord had His way. There have been times when I was meeting people for the first time and they would say something like, “So you are the person Linda has been speaking about.” I commend Linda because she is the kind of person who would speak with me if I were doing something wrong, but she speaks about me when I do things correctly. In fact, if you heard me on the radio recently (Life 88.5), that was in part because of Linda. So Linda, I want to publicly thank you for being a vessel of the Lord to open doors for me, and those you have connected me with.

Linda also knows something about my disciplined approach to life, and ministry. One of the things she would tell you is that I stay behind the pillar of cloud by day and the fire by night. That means I do not make major decisions without the Lord’s input. Oftentimes, I stay put unless the Lord sends me and commands me to speak. Also, I will not make a decision based other people’s input when it contradicts what the Lord has directly communicated to me.

Even though I have spoken about Linda being such a blessing to me, and to the ministries the Lord has entrusted me with, this is not about Linda. This is actually about you. I thank Linda but she has been the greatest blessing to and for her husband, not me.

On Trial A Test of My Faith_1

So here is how this message applies to you. For as much as I do not make major decisions without the Lord, sometimes He is silent on matters so I take initiative. Sometimes I find out that my initiative contradicted His will. When that happens, I stop what I am doing and return to being in His will. Then there are times when taking initiative results in wonderful things happening as the Lord makes His presence felt. When I went to Jamaica in 2016, it was because the Lord sent me. On the contrary, when I recently traveled to Texas, Denver, and California, those were my decisions. However, I asked the Lord to use me in whichever way He deemed fit while I traveled. And on at least one leg of the travels, He most certainly did.

I shared that with you because many people have used the Lord as an excuse to not do things that they know are clearly right. It is one thing if the Lord restrains you, but it is different if He allows you to exercise your free will to do something good, especially for others. If you got up and went to work this morning, I venture to say the Lord did not have to specifically tell you to get up and go to work. Yet, even though reluctantly, which may have included a wrestling match with your alarm, you got up and went to work anyhow. So please, do not use the Lord as an excuse to not do the right things when opportunities present themselves. There have been times when Linda connected me with people and I know the Lord did direct her to do so. But, by the time I was finished speaking with and/or praying, it became evident that the good opportunity was a “God opportunity”. There are some people who Linda has suggested that I meet but it has not happened yet, but in God’s timing it will. I also thank her for the times when she took the initiative to suggest certain things, and for respecting me enough when I said no, or I let her know something is not the Lord’s will for me at that time. Linda is an evangelist and she does the work of an evangelist. She is also one of a handful people in this area who has correctly discerned what a part of my calling is, which is why she knows when to call on me. Another local person who knows my calling from the Lord is Scott; the man the Lord gave a vision to direct me to go to where I met Linda. There are times when the Lord directs me to go see Scott, or one of his employees, and then there are times when I take the initiative to do so. Interestingly, since I mentioned Scott, and I wont go in depth, he was there for an example of a day when I was going to take initiative and go somewhere with him. The car he was supposed to drive was stuck in park until after I left. He let me know afterwards that the car was suddenly able to get in gear once I left. I will take initiative at times but I don’t kick against the pricks (Acts 9:5) when the Lord is either leading me towards or away from something.

Let begin wrapping up this exhortation with this hint regarding how the Lord may direct you to do something, yet it is so subtle that you may feel as if you are simply taking initiative. Sometimes you will receive what is called a burden from the Lord because a person, group, or organization may simply be on your mind more than usual. Sometimes it may come in the form of a dream. There are times when you may even have a bad feeling about the person, group, or organization. The Lord may be prompting you to pray. Or in some cases, you need to reach out to the person, group, or organization and the Lord will give you more at that time. When you are faithful in the seemingly little things, the Lord will entrust you with even more (Luke 19:17). Be obedient to the Lord’s will, but don’t forget that sometimes the Lord is waiting for you to take some initiative. As the saying goes, sometimes you are waiting on the Lord but He is actually waiting on you. It reminds me of the story of Boaz and Ruth. Have you ever noticed that the Lord did not direct Naomi to tell Ruth to go to Boaz? Yet, the results were definitely of the Lord because that one act put Ruth and Boaz in the genealogy of Christ (Ruth 2-4, Matthew 1:1-17). Similarly, the Lord never directed Saul to visit Samuel, but when Saul’s servant took the initiative to have them go to the prophet, Saul left the following day after being anointed as Israel’s first king (1 Samuel 8-9). Again, sometimes a little initiative can take you a very long way. Have you ever also noticed that when Moses told the Israelites the Lord was going to fight for them, the Lord asked Moses why was he crying out to Him (Exodus 14:13-16). As strange as that may seem, the Lord had already equipped Moses for him to take the initiative to part the Red Sea.

I thought I was going to close with the previous paragraph but I am inspired to share a bit more with you. There are times when the Lord reveals something to me and all He initially gives me is one Word. However, either through prayer and/or other research, He reveals more as time goes by. But that is a part of how the Lord invites us to have a deeper relationship with Him. It is written, “It is the glory of God to conceal a thing: but the honour of kings is to search out a matter.” ~ Proverbs 25:2 (KJV) That is sometimes why many gifts from the Lord are hidden in plain sight, as was the case with Ruth being in Boaz’s field. Moreover, one of the Words the Lord recently gave to me was “Rehoboth”, which basically means “open or broad places”. The Word “Rehoboth” was the revelation. I could search out this hidden matter by searching the Scriptures, in this case Genesis 26. To make a long story short, Isaac had dug up two wells his father Abraham had previously dug that the Philistines had stopped up. However, the herdsmen of Gerar caused him to abandon those wells so he moved on to unearth a third well. Isaac called the third well “Rehoboth”, and because there was no strife from the competition, he said, ‘For now the Lord hath made room for us, and we shall be fruitful in the land.’ ~ Genesis 26:22 (KJV) So I had the revelation and the interpretation for the Word “Rehoboth”, which meant I needed the application from the Lord. Meaning, I needed to know who the message for, and also if the Lord wanted me to make a proclamation. Since I started off by speaking about Linda, she has also seen me do things like this where I will say as much as I am authorized to release and then I close my mouth. I will take initiative but I will not exceed the boundaries the Lord has established. Many people are operating under restrictions that are not from the Lord but are actually self-imposed. So on that note, I close with the reminder that if the Lord has not set up a boundary, whether via a direct revelation or in the Scriptures, do not be afraid to take initiative. Linda takes initiative, and if she is wrong, she is not afraid to ask the Lord for forgiveness. Sometimes your initiative will benefit others more than yourself. However, you will also benefit, to include receiving a reward in heaven. But for an earthly example of being blessed for taking initiative, look at how things worked out for Naomi (Ruth 4). She was not the one who received a husband but she received a blessing. What is the Lord waiting for you to take initiative on?

The Mouth Speaks

Social Aloe Ministries: “Glorifying God. Exposing the devil.”




Before you fulfill someone’s prayer request, especially if you are an intercessor, seek the Lord to ensure you are praying for His will to be done instead of a person’s will. The Israelites desperately wanted a king so they could be like the other nations that they ignored the Lord’s warning to satisfy their desire. They basically traded God for an idol, and idolatry is never a good thing (1 Samuel 8). Do not get drawn into witchcraft prayers based on the desires and works of someone’s flesh.

Ahijah was an old prophet with poor eyesight when Jeroboam told his wife to disguise herself to inquire of him. However, the Lord revealed her identity and motives before she even showed up to his house (1 Kings 14). Sometimes prayers go up but witchcraft comes down. But thank the omniscient, omnipotent, and omnipresent God for revealing to an individual when others are using witchcraft against him or her. For every worker of iniquity, “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.” ~ Galatians 6:7-8 (KJV)

Also, please keep the following in mind so you can pray responsibly:

“…If ye bite and devour one another, take heed that ye be not consumed one of another. This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would. But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law. Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.” ~ Galatians 5:15-21 (KJV)

Breakthrough: When Jesus Sets You Free
Breakthrough: When Jesus Sets You Free