The Cost of Clarity  

Interestingly, I had a meeting recently, followed by a chat with a small group afterwards. Then I saw something when I came home that has inspired me to share the following, which is based on the conversation and my subsequent observation.

One of the things I love to receive from the Lord is a warning because it can help to avert disaster. I prefer to correct something now than to pay the price later. But even a warning from the Lord is not always clearly communicated. In Numbers 12:6-8, the Lord said sometimes He communicates more clearly than others. You may have had experiences where you later discovered what the Lord was warning you about, and even though it was very serious, the warning was vague, even though you knew it was a warning. Well, I am here to tell you that clarity costs.

The Lord had very important messages to communicate to the pharaoh of Egypt (Genesis 41) and the Babylonian king, Nebuchadnezzar (Daniel 2). However, those two dreams required someone to interpret them. Conversely, when Laban was trying to cheat Jacob of his wages, the Lord tipped the scales of justice in Jacob’s favor by clearly revealing which animals would reproduce (Genesis 31). Similarly, the Lord clearly communicated to king Abimelech (Genesis 20) and Joseph (Matthew 2) in dreams.

I won’t go into details, but the absolutely worst experience of my life was not without warnings from the Lord, but the warnings were not very clear to me at the time. It was like putting together a puzzle while wearing foggy glasses. But in retrospect, I can see the various ways the Lord was warning me, and also why I could not perceive things clearly at the time. I got in serious trouble, a hot mess, but the Lord graciously rescued me from that hell on earth. One of the reasons was because the warnings were not very clear (to me then) so my actions could be counted as out of ignorance rather than willful disobedience to the Lord. Again, clarity costs, especially when it results in willful disobedience (see 1 Kings 13). Quite frankly, at the time I thought the Lord was putting me through the most difficult test of my life, like when He told Abraham to sacrifice his only beloved son (Genesis 22). It was so difficult that I actually asked the Lord to kill me and send me to hell instead. Oh, another reason why the Lord was so gracious to me was because the devil wanted me dead; it was serious!

On The Run
Divorce the devil and his cohorts.

Prior to and even after my horrific experiences, which even though the Lord delivered me from still came with serious enduring consequences, the Lord has had me deliver warnings to people. But those warnings were given clearly, which means a person’s failure to comply means disobeying the Lord. Yet, I may give a person a strong warning at the time but the person still has the right to choose, and reap the consequences for his or her decisions. When Micaiah warned king Ahab that if he went to battle he was going to die, the king chose to ignore the prophet’s warning. In fact, he put the prophet in prison. But Micaiah simply let him clearly know that if he returned from battle then the Lord had not spoken through him (1 Kings 22:28). When you deliver a true message from the Lord, you never have to try to convince someone it was from the Lord. The message will either bear witness to the person’s spirit, or, the recipient will find out in the fullness of time. Sadly, sometimes a person forgets about the warning and then cries out to the Lord and asks, “Why me?” You don’t have to believe me, but the Lord does not give idle warnings.

Another type of warning is when a blessing from the Lord has conditions attached but He really wants to stress the conditions so the recipient does not mismanage or lose the blessing. An example of this is when the Lord clearly spoke to the newly appointed king Solomon about how He would bless the king, but he had to keep the Lord’s statues and commandments, like his father David (1 Kings 3:14). Sadly, we later see that even though he was blessed, Solomon violated the Lord’s commandment with respect to marriage. As a result, his foreign wives and concubines turned the king’s heart away from the Lord and into idolatry (1 Kings 11). I recall giving a similar message to someone. The Lord seemingly had me spend three times longer on the warnings regarding stewardship than the blessing itself. The recipient of that message may not have understood the underlying message behind the delivery, but I was painfully aware of the reason. Oftentimes, when the Lord gives you such a message, it means He knows you are on track to mess something up and He is trying to warn you in an effort to avert it. When Cain was angry with Abel, the Lord told him that sin was crouching at his door but he must rule over it. The rest of Genesis 4 tells the story of murder and the ensuing consequences. Cain complained about the punishment but he could not complain that the Lord had not warned him. If the Lord does not warn you of something, consider it as judgment against you. For example, Rebekah and her son Jacob conspired to deceive Isaac into giving Esau’s blessing to Jacob (Genesis 27). The deception worked, but there was a price to pay, beside Jacob having to flee. When Laban subsequently tried to deceive Jacob into marrying Leah, a woman he hated, the Lord was silent. Jacob was clueless about whom he had married until he woke up the following morning. Consequently, if you can honestly say that the Lord did not specifically warn you about something, you may want to find out why. In addition, lest not forget some of the enduring general warnings that are in the following Scriptures: Deuteronomy 32:35, Galatians 6:7-8, Obadiah 1:15, Psalm 7:14-16, Proverbs 6:27-31, etc.

The Lord is full of mercy and grace, but when He gives a clear warning, it means choosing to ignore it, and consequently Him, is an act of willful disobedience instead of ignorance. There have been times when I warned individuals about things and they persisted and I either kept quiet or interceded. But oftentimes, there is no intercession because the Lord gives us the free will to make choices, to include contrary to His will, and He allows us to reap the consequences of those decisions. I am passionate about delivering warnings from the Lord. One reason is because I have committed many sins in my life but I never knew how severe the consequences would be, even for seemingly minor infractions. The devil is constantly seeking to get or retain legal access into our lives and sin provides that gateway. There are times when people are reaping the consequences of certain actions from many years ago. Yet, they cannot make the correlation between current challenges and past sins. Engaging in sin is basically making a covenant with the devil. One of the numerous hypocrisies about the devil is that he will help you break a covenant with the Lord but he does not give up easily when you try breaking a covenant with him. The devil will try to hold you to every letter of the covenant you either knowingly or unknowingly made with him. Thank God that there is power in the name of Jesus, the only begotten Son who was sent to free us from the bondage of sin and death. ‘If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.’ ~ John 8:36 (KJV)

Thank the Lord for His love, which includes His mercy and grace. I close with the following reminder (instead of a warning) about God’s mercy and grace: “There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death.” ~ Romans 8:1-2 (KJV)


Holy Spirit Led
The gifts and fruit of the Holy Spirit IAW 1 Corinthians 12 and Galatians 5:22-23.

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“Spouse Material”

Wife Material 


Please, do not confuse a woman who comes into your life for a union that is God-ordained versus demonically arranged.

In the case of the former, things will simply work as she effortlessly fits into your life like Adam’s missing rib. In addition, the Lord will give you a quickening in your spirit to let you know that of all the women in the world, she is the “help meet” He has ordained for you (Genesis 2:18-25). Consequently, regardless of whether the Lord brings you to her, or she to you, the relationship will bear the following fruit: “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.” ~ Proverbs 18:22 (KJV)

In the case of the latter, you will discover that Proverbs 18:22 is not simply about finding a wife, but rather, a Godly wife, with whom you are equally yoked. In a demonically arranged union, the woman will be a thorn in your flesh, a rib that does not fit, because she is a messenger of satan, sent to ruin your life and your relationship with the Lord. For example, king Ahab was an evil king, but he got worse when he married Jezebel (1 Kings 16:28-33). The effects are even more pronounced for king Solomon, whom the Lord selected to build His temple, but because he married idolatrous women, his walk with the Lord was not upright because he practiced idolatry.

In summary, please do not confuse your “help meet”, your God-ordained (missing) rib, with the destroyer sent to serve as a thorn in your flesh. By the way, sometimes the thorn in your flesh is sent to prevent you from being with the one the Lord ordained for you (see Genesis 29-30).

The Sound of a Fallen Tree
A collection of poetry about heartbreak.


Husband Material 


It is very important to discern between a fruitless man and a man the Lord has pruned to be a better fit for you, and to enhance his fruitfulness. A freshly sheared sheep is capable of producing wool, if given time and opportunity. But please ensure it is a sheep instead of a goat or you will be thoroughly disappointed.



Social Aloe Ministries: “Glorifying God. Exposing the devil.”


God, The Love of My Life (2)

Relationally Convoluted: Untying the Knots 

It is unwise to get into a relationship with someone who is going through a divorce, even when you are certain the marriage is basically over with no chance of being rekindled. One of the many reasons is the marriage is not over until the judge signs the divorce decree. I say that again, …the marriage is not over until the judge signs the divorce decree. So, if either of those legally married individuals gets into another relationship, it will be adulterous. Don’t expect a relationship that starts in adultery to go well. By the way, some people have gotten their hearts broken by getting into a “relationship” with someone who was going through a divorce but the person left to rekindle his or her marriage. Oh, the horror of your lover cheating on you with his or her spouse!

Since I am on this potentially very convoluted subject, please let me address two more things. If a married couple is estranged and decides to rekindle their relationship, they can basically continue where they left off because the marriage never ended. On the contrary, if two people are divorced, their first marriage is null and void so they have to get married again or they would be “shacking up”. A divorce decree trumps a previous marriage decree every day of the week. By the way, if you are considering remarrying someone, ensure you work on the issues that resulted in or contributed to your divorce. If not, you will build on a known weak foundation that will most likely result in the same devastating results. In fact, the foundation would be weaker than before based on previous damage. Don’t repeat a mistake in an effort to disprove you had made a mistake in the first place. It is a major red flag if you have grown but your ex has only grown a new façade. You may want to remarry your ex because you feel like getting divorced was a mistake, but the real mistake was getting married.

I know the things I said were not exactly groundbreaking, but people have gotten ensnared in those situations. We can learn a lot from our own mistakes, and the mistakes others have made.


Bonus Material:

Many people view being unequally yoked solely as matching something strong with something weak. However, there are times when it refers to two people of equal strength who are simply going in opposite directions. As a result, instead of one person dragging the other along, they break the yoke that had them together.


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Marriage: Warning Signs  

You may want to warm up your “cold feet” before walking down the aisle because the Lord may be trying to tell you something. When entering into a pool with cold water, it is better to jump in than to dip your toes in to check the temperature first, lest the temperature deter you. Unfortunately, the “jumping in” philosophy when it comes to getting married may backfire because you really need a very accurate picture of what you are about to get into. While it may be easy to jump into a relationship, you may be shocked what you find once you’re in the relationship, and how hard it may be to get out of it. Or in other words, if the thought of getting married takes you back to your childhood when you had to take bitter medicine by quickly swallowing it before you (theoretically) started tasting it, that sounds more like a prison sentence than a marriage. It is certainly not a good sign if you get to the point where the minister is saying the vows for you to repeat and you start wondering who is the best divorce attorney to handle your case.

Let the peace of the Lord guide you. Do not venture into hell thinking you will find peace when you get there. Hell is hell, and if people knew how horrible hell was no one would want to go there. I pray that you end up in a marriage where if the two of you could do it all over again, you would still choose to marry each other. I pray that you end up in a marriage instead of a relationship that is living hell. Hell was prepared for the devil and his angels (Matthew 25:41), so I suspect that people who go there get a sense that they are in a place they were never meant to go or stay. I pray to Jesus that you feel the same way about your marriage. Before you walk down the aisle, do not ignore the warning signs…

The Sound of a Fallen Tree
A collection of poetry about heartbreak.

Bonus Materials:


A narcissist is like a vacuum cleaner; he or she may look clean on the outside yet will suck you into a very messy relationship.


Victor’s Crown 

Trophies are for sports instead of relationships. So, don’t go seeking someone to be your “trophy” husband or wife because the thrill of victory will soon become the agony of defeat. And please, do not let jealousy be the driving force for you to pursue someone or you may end up winning the “competition” without actually loving or wanting the prize, you simply wanted to win, or even worse, ensure someone else lost. Which means, like a sports fisherman, the person you caught (and possibly released) simply for pleasure or competition is what someone else would have truly cherished.

Love is not a game.


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Be mindful of the devil using seemingly trustworthy people, especially those from your inner circle, to cause you to sin (rebel) against God. A sin is a violation of God’s commandment (1 John 3:4). Sin started when Eve led Adam to violate the Lord’s commandment to not eat the fruit from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. The Lord gave Adam the commandment, in part because Adam spent a portion of his life doing the work of the Lord prior to Eve’s creation (Genesis 2:17). It is obvious that Adam told Eve about the Lord’s commandment based on her interaction with the devil (Genesis 3:1-5). However, nothing really happened until Adam ate the fruit after she had eaten it and shared the harvest with him (Genesis 3:6-7). I am not implying that Adam and/or Eve went to hell, but let what happened with them serve as an example that no one is worth going to hell for, no one.

When the Lord gives you a directive, and you share it with someone who then tries to get you to violate it, you have a decision to make. A person who tries to get you to violate what the Lord told you obviously does not take your salvation and relationship with the Lord seriously (e.g. 1 Kings 13). In one of the worse case scenarios, that person is trying to become your god. In some cases, your feelings for and relationship with the person may complicate you decision. But here is what Jesus said to help you simplify that decision:

Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. For I AM come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household. He that loveth father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after Me, is not worthy of Me. He that findeth his life shall lose it: and he that loseth his life for My sake shall find it.’ ~ Matthew 10:34-39 (KJV)

Sometimes you have to use the sword the Lord mentioned and cut some people off, and possibly keep them permanently out of your life, especially out of your relationship with Christ. Your greatest foe may be in your household, to include the one with whom you share a bed. This is a regrettable part of the narrative of king Solomon’s life, and relationship with the Lord:

“But king Solomon loved many strange women, together with the daughter of Pharaoh, women of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Zidonians, and Hittites: of the nations concerning which the Lord said unto the children of Israel, ‘Ye shall not go in to them, neither shall they come in unto you: for surely they will turn away your heart after their gods’: Solomon clave unto these in love. And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines: and his wives turned away his heart. For it came to pass, when Solomon was old, that his wives turned away his heart after other gods: and his heart was not perfect with the Lord his God, as was the heart of David his father. For Solomon went after Ashtoreth the goddess of the Zidonians, and after Milcom the abomination of the Ammonites. And Solomon did evil in the sight of the Lord, and went not fully after the Lord, as did David his father.” ~ 1 Kings 11:1-6 (KJV)

A Test of My Faith
Endure life’s fiery trials.

Woefully, many people are making excuses for not doing the things the Lord has called them to do. They may feel justified because their reason(s) may be quite valid. But that won’t be the case when they give an account to the Lord on the day of their judgment. Before that day comes for you, if you are making excuses regarding not fulfilling your calling from the Lord, please keep the following in mind:

“And it came to pass, that, as they went in the way, a certain man said unto Him, ‘Lord, I will follow Thee whithersoever Thou goest.’

“And Jesus said unto him, ‘Foxes have holes, and birds of the air have nests; but the Son of man hath not where to lay His head.’

“And He said unto another, ‘Follow Me.’ But he said, ‘Lord, suffer me first to go and bury my father.’

Jesus said unto him, ‘Let the dead bury their dead: but go thou and preach the kingdom of God.’

And another also said, ‘Lord, I will follow Thee; but let me first go bid them farewell, which are at home at my house.’

And Jesus said unto him, ‘No man, having put his hand to the plough, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God.’” ~ Luke 9:57-62 (KJV)

That is in stark contrast to His disciples who became apostles, such as the following example: “And Jesus, walking by the sea of Galilee, saw two brethren, Simon called Peter, and Andrew his brother, casting a net into the sea: for they were fishers. And He saith unto them, ‘Follow Me, and I will make you fishers of men.’ And they straightway left their nets, and followed Him.” ~ Matthew 4:18-20 (KJV) The apostles did not hesitate or make excuses. By the way, Peter did that even though he was married (Matthew 8:14).

Centuries prior to that, the Israelites had a good reason to not go into the Promised Land when the Lord told them to go and possess it. Yet that same reason became the Lord’s justification to keep that generation out of the Promised Land; they perished in the wilderness. Do not be among the generation that perishes in the “wilderness” because you disqualified yourself from reaping the Lord’s promise, thereby causing Him to use a more faithful generation to give your promise to instead. Who has the single greatest influence on your life? What or whom are you holding unto that is preventing you from wholeheartedly holding unto the Lord? Remember, “For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.” ~ Romans 8:14 (KJV)

Are you a prophet in the cave/wilderness?
Raised in the Wilderness: Rogue Reformers, Rallying the Remnant


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FOG Generator  

A narcissist will use gaslighting in a relationship to sow seeds to manipulate a nonbeliever to doubt him or herself. What is even worse is that the narcissist will use the same technique to cause a Christian to doubt his or her relationship with Jesus. The narcissist will eventually try to become his or her partner’s demigod.

When conducting military operations, the term “fog of war” describes the uncertainties that lie ahead (despite the best intelligence and preparation), and also the things people do in the heat of the moment. Similarly, a relationship with a narcissist comes with a “narcissistic FOG” to cloud the target’s decision making and other faculties. Sadly, to an outsider, the FOG makes it seem as if the narcissist is the more stable person in the couple, even though he or she is the source of the upheaval. The narcissist is the FOG generator.

The narcissistic FOG is due in part to the narcissist’s use of Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to cause a person to enter and/or stay in a relationship. One of the many reasons why the narcissist tries to isolate his or her target is to keep the individual from receiving wise (Godly) counsel, which could help to lift the FOG so the victim can began to see and think clearly again. Unfortunately, when the narcissist uses the fear of the Lord to influence a person to take or not take action, it contradicts the following Scripture: “…God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” ~ 2 Timothy 1:7 (KJV) It is hard to have the mind of Christ when someone basically keeps your circuitry saturated with water…

If you are in a relationship, regardless how much you may love or think you love the person, if your reasons for staying predominantly include fear, obligation, and/or guilt, you may want to ensure you don’t have a FOG generator in your life.


Social Aloe Ministries: “Glorifying God. Exposing the devil.”



Your Reputation 

There are two ways for you to ruin your reputation as a minister, do evil and/or associate with or vouch for those who are evil (false).

People will know you by your fruits, and what/who you tolerate. Your reputation plays a significant role in whether people, especially those who are seeking the Lord, will receive anything from you. Protect your gifts and calling from all sources of contamination. Jeremiah did not tolerate Hananiah (Jeremiah 28), and Paul did not tolerate the woman with the spirit of divination who was trying to associate herself with him and Silas (Acts 16:16-18). Also see Revelation 2:18-23 regarding the Lord’s heart of what people, particularly His ministers tolerate.

Never forget that we are to “…have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.” ~ Ephesians 5:11 (KJV)

I close with the additional reminders:

o “…I would not that ye should have fellowship with devils. Ye cannot drink the cup of the Lord, and the cup of devils: ye cannot be partakers of the Lord’s table, and of the table of devils. Do we provoke the Lord to jealousy? Are we stronger than He?” ~ 1 Corinthians 10:20-22 (KJV)

o “Regard not them that have familiar spirits, neither seek after wizards, to be defiled by them: I AM the Lord your God.” ~ Leviticus 19:31 (KJV)

o “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? Or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? For ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, ‘I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be My people. Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate’, saith the Lord, ‘and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you. And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be My sons and daughters’, saith the Lord Almighty.” ~ 2 Corinthians 6:14-18 (KJV)

The Mouth Speaks 

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Relationships: Love Notes

“Game Changer”  

Sometimes an “I do” turns into “What did I do?” because the other person’s true colors came shining through.

A revelation may come as a pleasant surprise or a rude awakening. Likewise, there are also times when “suppressed evidence” chances nothing, but then there are times when it changes everything. When it comes to a relationship, the suppression of evidence may constitute fraud, which may cause the victim to file a motion to terminate the relationship, immediately. It is hard to trust someone who would withhold inculpatory evidence in an effort to get or keep someone. A relationship built on deceit is one that is rapidly heading towards its demise; sometimes the bottom falls out quickly and suddenly. Most people don’t like being lied to; it is a “deal-breaker”. A person who truly loves you will love all of you. As a result, you won’t have to hide anything, to include potentially incriminatory information that would have or may have deterred others. Conversely, if that person loves you, he or she won’t hide something important from you either. For example, the wedding night (after exchanging wedding vows) is not a good time for a man to find out that the woman he married was born a man.

You may be familiar with the following: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” ~ 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV)

Now, with respect to this post, please pay attention the fifth verse, which states, “[Love] …does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking…”


“Reality Check” 

There comes a time when denial meets an insurmountable obstacle called reality.



If you are single, one of the ways you get to find out how people in your life feel about you is based on whom they would or would not try to set you up with.



It’s a telling sign when a person’s words and deeds do not align.



Social Aloe Ministries: “Glorifying God. Exposing the devil.”


P.S. I recommend watching the following videos:




  • This is an example of how low the devil will go to prevent, disrupt, or destroy your God-ordained relationship. “IDentifying YOUR God-Ordained Spouse, and the counterfeits (Part 3 of 3)”:








The Sound of a Fallen Tree
A collection of poetry about heartbreak.

The One

There is only one version of the truth, and that is the truth without a version or revision. Similarly, there are many antichrists but there is only one Christ Jesus (1 John 2:18, John 3:16). Never revise the truth to exclude the portions that contradict your narrative. The Bible includes Jacob’s deception, king Saul’s rebellion, David’s adultery, etc. If my life story was in the Bible, you would see a man who, in one way or another, violated all 10 of the Lord’s Commandments (Exodus 20:3-17). However, I am a recipient of God’s love as demonstrated through His mercy and grace. I can relate to when Paul said, “This is a faithful saying, and worthy of all acceptation, that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners; of whom I am chief. Howbeit for this cause I obtained mercy, that in me first Jesus Christ might shew forth all longsuffering, for a pattern to them which should hereafter believe on him to life everlasting. Now unto the King eternal, immortal, invisible, the only wise God, be honour and glory for ever and ever. Amen.” ~ 1 Timothy 1:15-17 (KJV)

God changed me, but He does not change, and neither does the truth. Please keep the following in mind:

  • “Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever.” ~ Hebrews 13:8 (KJV)
  • ‘For I AM the Lord, I change not…’ ~ Malachi 3:6 (KJV)

Social Aloe Ministries: “Glorifying God. Exposing the devil.”

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