The Sound of a Fallen Tree

“Hoovering”: Backfire    

When you end a “relationship” with a narcissist, he or she will try to make your life a living hell by using “emotional blackmail”. The intent is to convince you that returning to him or her will make your life better. However, do not forget that the narcissist is the source of the upheaval, and was manipulative in the “relationship” and is still trying to manipulate you. In addition, his or her actions are disrespectful to you and is being done out of selfishness instead of love. Keep in mind that those are some of the reasons why you may have left the “relationship” to begin with. As a result, everything the narcissist does in an attempt to pull you back into the toxic relationship should strengthen your resolve to stay away from that person. The harder the narcissist tries to “hoover” you back in is the further away you should get. Let every evil deed serve as a reminder of the narcissist’s true colors, which is why you left and should never return. Also, the narcissistic attacks serve as evidence that it is the narcissist whose life is miserable without your presence instead of you needing the narcissist in your life. The narcissist needs you but you don’t need him or her, which is a part of the reason why it is easier for you to go “no-contact”. Given time and space you will discover that your life is much better without the narcissist, and the narcissist hates when you are happy (as was the case when you were “together”).

A person who loves you would not try to hurt you, to include by trying to overtly or covertly destroy your relationship with others, which is a narcissistic ploy to try to isolate you… By the way, do not fall for the ridiculous line of reasoning if you witness someone trying to destroy another person’s life while claiming he or she is fighting for love. You should be able to tell that what the person is packaging as being cute is actually creepy. It is a very telling sign when a person cannot see that his or her attempts to get someone back is backfiring.

A person who does not respect your boundaries does not respect you, and there is a strong correlation between love and respect. Moreover, and for some people this may be very difficult, forgive the narcissist for everything. You become better and let the narcissist seethe in his or her bitterness. Forgiveness is like washing yourself clean after a narcissist tries to defile you. Forgiveness is not about forgetting what the narcissist has done, and most certainly, it is not about reconciling with a narcissist. Forgiveness allows you to cut the umbilical cord between you and the narcissist, and more importantly, to reconcile your relationship with God. When your relationship with the Lord is in good standing then the narcissist lives in enmity with God. Live at peace with your enemies yet don’t let them get within striking distance of you. Please keep the following in mind regarding your enemies and forgiveness:

  • ‘For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.’ ~ Jesus (Matthew 6:14-15 (KJV)

 

  • “Then came Peter to Him, and said, ‘Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Till seven times?’ Jesus saith unto him, ‘I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.’” ~ Matthew 18:21-22 (KJV) Please, don’t keep track of how many times you have forgiven someone, especially a narcissist. In addition to the previous example, the Lord provided the following insight on handling situations that require forgiveness. “Then said He unto the disciples, ‘It is impossible but that offences will come: but woe unto him, through whom they come! It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones. Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him. And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.’” ~ Luke 17:1-4 (KJV) Don’t spend time rebuking a narcissist every time he or she violates a boundary, or at least tries. A narcissist will do some unfathomable things in an effort to consume your time and attention. A narcissist does not respect boundaries, and neither does he or she have boundaries regarding how far he or she will go to meet an objective. He or she will even use the name and/or Word of God to manipulate you, just like the devil (Genesis 3, Luke 4:1-13). A narcissist is also a liar so he or she may engage in false repentance in an effort to lure you back in. Your best bet is to simply forgive the narcissist and move on. It may have seemed odd that people knowingly persecuted Jesus and had Him nailed to the cross, yet He said, ‘Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do.’ ~ Luke 23:34 (KJV) It seemed as if they knew exactly what they were doing, especially considering that they had spent time plotting how to do it. Despite how much time and effort a narcissist spends trying to destroy you, the narcissist does not know he or she is actually destroying him or herself. Can you imagine being one of Christ’s persecutors and having to stand before Him on judgment day? The same goes for king Saul who spent years of his life persecuting David. When you study that story, you will see how many times Saul falsely repented, promising to leave David alone but would go back to pursuing David as if he were addicted. Moreover, every time Saul went after David he was putting himself at greater enmity with the Lord, until it got to the point where the Lord stopped communicating with Saul as his day of destruction drew near (1 Samuel 28). Galatians 6:7-8 is not the only Scripture that speaks about people reaping what they have sown. This is among many Scriptures that speaks to a narcissist’s fate, ‘…the day of theLord is near upon all the heathen: as thou hast done, it shall be done unto thee: thy reward shall return upon thine own head.’ ~ Obadiah 15 (KJV)

 

  • “When a man’s ways please theLord, He maketh even his enemies to be at peace with him.” ~ Proverbs 16:7 (KJV) However, that does not mean you will or should become friends with your enemies. So, do not let a narcissist deceive by saying, “Let’s just be friends.” That is a covert way for a narcissist to maintain a foothold in your life. Narcissists do not respect boundaries, to include legal ones, so you have to vigilantly enforce and reinforce your boundaries with a narcissist. That includes if/when he or she accuses you of being unforgiving because you refuse to maintain a relationship with him or her. Again, forgiveness does not mean reconciliation. You know how a narcissist causes confusion and loves to (try to) disturb your peace. Remember, “…God is not the author of confusion, but of peace…” ~ 1 Corinthians 14:33 (KJV) It is good to have friends, but a friend will not try to destroy you and/or your relationship with the Lord. If possible, your best bet is to avoid all contact with a narcissist, and his or her family and friends. If you are co-parenting with a narcissist, limit contact and compartmentalize your relationship…

 

  • Jesus said, ‘Ye have heard that it hath been said, ‘Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.’ But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for He maketh His sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust. For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? Do not even the publicans the same? And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? Do not even the publicans so? Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.’ ~ Matthew 5:43-48 (KJV)

I was inspired to say a whole lot more than I thought, which is how things usually work out anyhow. In closing, never forget that a narcissist is an insidious enemy, one who is constantly seeking ways to control you, to include by using fear, obligation, and/or guilt to get you to maintain some form of relationship with him or her. Even though not always physically abusive, at a minimum, a narcissist is mentally abusive, which is harder to discern, even when being initially subjected to it. But that is a part of how the narcissist gains “narcissistic supply”. It is thrilling for a narcissist to do things, especially in plain sight, and get away with it. However, despite a narcissist’s destructive behavior, forgive him or her, and remember that forgiveness does not mean reconciling. You cannot reconcile a “relationship” with someone who has not changed, especially when the person is trying to lure you back in, get you under his or her control, and then punish you. I exhort you, “Lest satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices.” ~ 2 Corinthians 2:11 (KJV)

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P.S. Please note that I use both genders when referring to narcissists. Many people erroneously believe that only women suffer abuse at the hands of a narcissist. But some women are narcissists too. Many men have suffered narcissistic abuse from their mothers and/or women they have been in relationships with, to include professional and platonic relationships. I can testify that I have had several encounters with narcissistic women, before I truly knew what narcissism was. You may have read the things I wrote in 2016 regarding narcissism and thought I was finished, as did I. But I recently received a testimony from a man who reached out to me and it reignited the fire in me to keep addressing the issue. I commend him for that because men who have suffered or are suffering abuse typically suffer in silence. When many people hear about someone being in an abusive relationship, they usually look at the man as being the abuser. The Lord has used that man to inspire me to address the spirit of narcissism in accordance with Ephesians 6:12. There is one thing the Lord and the devil knows about me is that I will speak up, even when people don’t listen. Sadly, many people who are experiencing narcissistic abuse usually feel as if their plight is unseen and unheard…

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You Are More Than Enough, When…  

You will be more than enough when you are with the right person, but you will never be enough when you are with the wrong person. When there is unrequited love, you can have a lot to offer and it still won’t be enough. Conversely, when the love is reciprocated, you can seemingly not have enough to offer and it will be more than enough for your beloved. Keep the following in mind about Elkanah, and which of his two wives he loved more:

“Now there was a certain man of Ramathaimzophim, of mount Ephraim, and his name was Elkanah, the son of Jeroham, the son of Elihu, the son of Tohu, the son of Zuph, an Ephrathite: and he had two wives; the name of the one was Hannah, and the name of the other Peninnah: and Peninnah had children, but Hannah had no children. And this man went up out of his city yearly to worship and to sacrifice unto the Lord of hosts in Shiloh. And the two sons of Eli, Hophni and Phinehas, the priests of the Lord, were there. And when the time was that Elkanah offered, he gave to Peninnah his wife, and to all her sons and her daughters, portions: But unto Hannah he gave a worthy portion; for he loved Hannah: but the Lord had shut up her womb. And her adversary also provoked her sore, for to make her fret, because the Lord had shut up her womb. And as he did so year by year, when she went up to the house of the Lord, so she provoked her; therefore she wept, and did not eat. Then said Elkanah her husband to her, ‘Hannah, why weepest thou? And why eatest thou not? And why is thy heart grieved? Am not I better to thee than ten sons?’” ~ 1 Samuel 1:1-8 (KJV)

You may already know that despite Hannah’s setback, the Lord was gracious to her and blessed her with five children. Hannah is the mother of Samuel the seer (1 Samuel 2:21). Conversely, there is another story with a similar theme, but it demonstrates the misery trying to pursue a relationship when there is unrequited love (see Genesis 29-30).

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The Jokes Are Over

Ironically, some comedians make people laugh yet they secretly struggle with depression that is masked by their smiles, sense of humor, and charisma. Similarly, many ministers who preach about being holy unto the Lord, struggle with “secret” sins that are masked by their titles, eloquence, and liturgical attire. Ministers are not immune to the devil’s fiery darts. In fact, they are frequently targeted because when a devil smites the shepherd it expects the sheep to scatter (Zechariah 13:7).

By the way, the terms shepherd and sheep are symbolic of the type of relationship. However, we are people and we need to look out for each other, and that includes the congregation looking out for the shepherd. Don’t hug your pastor on the way in or out of church without doctrinally confronting him about the smell of alcohol coming from his pores. In addition, do not remain silent or excuse any other verifiable bad behavior from the clergy (or fellow congregants). If you won’t confront the issues, at least stop partaking in them and get out of that environment (ministry). Would you drink water from a toilet bowl? If you answered no, which I hope you did, I hope you will not drink living waters from a known contaminated vessel (minister) either.

When the Lord asks a question, make no mistake about it, He already knows the answer. The Lord had warned Cain that sin was crouching at his door but he must rule over it, yet he killed his brother Abel. When the Lord asked Cain where his brother was, he retorted, ‘I know not: Am I my brother’s keeper?’ ~ Genesis 4:9 (KJV) Cain soon found out that was the wrong answer. So please, look out for your brothers and sisters in Christ.

In closing, when confronting issues in the church, please keep the following in mind:

  • “Against an elder receive not an accusation, but before two or three witnesses. Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear.” ~ 1 Timothy 5:19-20 (KJV)

 

  • Jesus said,Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.’ ~ Matthew 18:15-17 (KJV)

Be your brother’s keeper because many Christians are fighting tremendous battles, alone. “For WE wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.” ~ Ephesians 6:12 (KJV) Elijah, a prophet who could call down fire from heaven, was wrestling with the enemy and he felt so alone in the fight that he wanted to give up and die (1 Kings 19). Let US wrestle the enemy, together. As the saying goes, “united we stand, divided we fall” so please do not allow the enemy to “divide and conquer” your brothers and sisters in Christ.

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Minister to the People

Masculinity  

Ladies,

Do not allow ministry to cause you to lose your femininity, which is in part due to the acquisition of spiritual pride.

There are many women in various forms of ministry today. That is in part because many men have not fulfilled their calling and responsibilities, to include being the spiritual head of the household (Ephesians 5:22-24). Similarly, Jesus’s initial disciples were sent to preach the gospel to the Jews, but because of rejection, many were sent to the Gentiles instead (Acts 13:46). Many women have had to pick up the slack because men have slacked off.

Don’t get me wrong because I am not saying that women have no business being ministers. The Lord has used women as His ministers throughout the ages. Deborah was a prophetess and judge over Israel (Judges 4), Huldah was a prophetess (2 Kings 22), as was Isaiah’s wife (Isaiah 8:3) and Anna (Luke 2:36). Moses’s sister, Miriam, was also a prophetess (Exodus 15:20). But we see how the Lord disciplined her when she and their brother Aaron, the high priest and a prophet, rose up against Moses because of his interracial marriage (Numbers 12). Miriam was a prophetess but she made the mistake of trying to usurp Moses’s God-given authority, which was greater than hers. Miriam had exceeded the boundaries of her ministry by trying to incite a rebellion against Moses, a humble man whose walk was upright in the sight of the Lord, despite Miriam’s opinions.

A part of apostleship is establishing and enforcing doctrine within Christianity. The Lord used Paul, an apostle and Pharisee (student of the Law), mightily in this manner. The apostle Paul made some comments that can be viewed as sexist in today’s environment (1 Timothy 2:12). But the failure to adhere to those standards has contributed to some women ministers losing their femininity. Quite frankly, some have lost their minds because the power has gone to their heads, oftentimes because of immaturity, and like Miriam, the refusal to submit to authority. The following warning applies to male and female ministers: “Not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride he fall into the condemnation of the devil.” ~ 1 Timothy 3:6 (KJV)

I know of some strong women ministers who have not lost their femininity. Consequently, they have not lost my respect, which means I listen to what they have to say and support their ministries. Sadly, and conversely, I have seen too many women who are conducting themselves as men, in a manner reminiscent of Jezebel (1 Kings 21). Deborah and Huldah were prophetesses who were married, but they had to be wives to their husbands instead of their masters. They had to balance delivering the Word of the Lord with authority yet submitting to their husbands, thereby treating them with respect and dignity.

love-marriage

One of the repercussions of women who lose their femininity, as a result of ministry, is they oftentimes lose their ability to enter into or stay in a relationship with a man. They may be able to find and keep a man like king Ahab, one who will tolerate the ungodly role reversal, but they will rebel against someone like a Jehu who wants to maintain the Lord’s order. One of the reasons men will avoid masculine women is because it will be like being in a relationship with another man. A Godly man will seek a Godly woman but he will avoid and reject the ones who are simply too masculine. One of the signs of a masculine woman is one who refuses to tone things downs and believes a man has to be strong to “handle her”. Men are not interested in being in a power struggle with a woman in a relationship. Men value being respected and certain actions from women will come across as a challenge to their authority, as if it were coming from another man. Ladies, you do not want a man to treat you like a man, or at least I hope you don’t.

Since I have stirred up the proverbial hornets’ nest, let me also address another aspect of women in ministry, and that is them serving in positions the Bible clearly states is reserved for men. Is there a shortage of male ministers in the church why women are appointed as bishops (the senior pastor or overseer)? My Bible says:

“This is a true saying, if a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work. A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach; Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous; One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity; (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?) …And let these also first be proved; then let them use the office of a deacon, being found blameless. Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things. Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.” ~ 1 Timothy 3:1-5, 10-12 (KJV)

By the way, I am also going to state the obvious, because based on those standards, and the others I excluded from that chapter, many men are not qualified to be bishops or deacons either. Note how the apostle Paul was inspired to stress the importance of men maintaining headship of their homes. If the men cannot maintain headship of their homes, things do not bode well for the churches they will be entrusted to oversee. That is one of the reasons why men, especially those who are on track for those positions, will reject masculine women who will sabotage their ministry unto the Lord.

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Relationship Nuggets

Motivated  

 Deeds are more important than words, but a person’s motives outweigh both. Many people say and do seemingly good things but with very sinister motives.

 

The Gift of Love  

It is hard to love a person who hates him or herself.

It is hard to love another when you don’t love yourself.

It is hard to love another when you are in love with yourself.

 

Broken Edges  

Two broken people in a relationship usually result in both getting cut from their sharp edges. Become whole before you try to unite two people as one.

 

Pieces  

When two people or groups are fighting against each other, while using the Lord’s name, either one or both of them are wrong. “For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints.” ~ 1 Corinthians 14:33 (KJV)

 

Willing & Able  

A relationship consists of two people who are willing and able to give 100% of themselves to each other. When both people are giving 100%, no one gets left out, unless the other person’s 100% is simply not enough. But sometimes a giver’s insufficient 100% is because the recipient needs to heal. If not, it is like pouring into a cup with a hole at the bottom that either never gets filled or won’t stay filled. It is worthy to note that a healthy person does not want to be in a parasitic relationship.

Never commit (relationship) idolatry by seeking something from a person that only the Lord can and should provide. You are going to lose yourself and a whole lot more if you seek your identity in anything or anyone else besides Christ.

It is better to be happy and single instead of married and miserable. Reject anyone who negatively impacts your relationship with the Lord. When the Lord removes people from your life, or allows them to leave*, it is because they have no place in your future. You will know because your life will be better without them, and quite frankly, their lives will be better off without you. It is idolatrous if you are pining over someone who is not yearning for you, a case of unrequited love (or actually, lust). Like the idols that have been made of false gods, when people pour out their heart and soul to those images, all they receive in return is a blank stare.

*Note: Joseph was going to quietly divorce Mary but the Lord intervened because his destiny was divinely connected to Mary and the then unborn Jesus. Mary did not have to do anything, except get out of the Lord’s way for His will to be done (Matthew 1:18-25).

 

“SONblocked”

August 21, 2016 was the day of the once-in-a-lifetime solar eclipse. Well, I went outside and a thick blanket of dark clouds was blocking the sun. For me, it was a reminder to trust what God blocks and don’t try to resurrect what He has allowed to die or even killed (2 Samuel 12:14-15). I did not personally witness the eclipse yet I did not feel as if I missed anything. Missing the opportunity did not mean my life was over.

The Sound of a Fallen Tree
A collection of poetry about heartbreak.

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Repent

Soul Searching

I feel convicted when I hear some messages, even to the point of inquiring of the Lord if and how the message applies to me. Most of the times it does not. Yet, I do not want to fall into the error of doing things that are displeasing to the Lord, or even worse, staying in the condition when confronted with that fact. If I get off course, I usually look for the very next off-ramp marked “Repentance” so I can get off the highway to hell. Moreover, it is important to note that there is a difference between sorrow and repentance. Many people claim they are sorry yet continue going down the highway to hell. They feel the Holy Spirit’s conviction as He tries to turn them away from sin, but they quench, and even grieve the Holy Spirit, and continue down the path to soothe their soul.

Let us take a look at what happened when Jesus said one of His disciples was going to betray Him to illustrate the difference between sorrow and repentance.

“And the disciples did as Jesus had appointed them; and they made ready the Passover. Now when the even was come, He sat down with the twelve. And as they did eat, He said, ‘Verily I say unto you, that one of you shall betray Me.’

And they were exceeding sorrowful, and began every one of them to say unto him, ‘Lord, is it I?’

And He answered and said, ‘He that dippeth his hand with Me in the dish, the same shall betray Me. The Son of man goeth as it is written of Him: but woe unto that man by whom the Son of man is betrayed! It had been good for that man if he had not been born.’

[Note: They were sorrowful, but that was the time to transition to repentance.]

Then Judas, which betrayed Him, answered and said, ‘Master, is it I?’

He said unto him, ‘Thou hast said.’” ~ Matthew 26:19-25 (KJV)

By the way, Judas asked the Lord that question after he had consorted with the chief priests and was looking for an opportunity to betray Jesus (Matthew 26:14-16). Again, sorrow is not the same as repentance. Many people are sorry for things they have done and/or are doing but will end up in hell if they do not repent. Repentance is not simply being sorry, it means to stop and turn away from sin, to include making restitutions if necessary. Repentance requires making changes in an effort to draw closer to the Lord.

6, 3, 40, Forever

When Jesus told the “Parable of the Wedding Banquet” (Matthew 22:1-13), keep in mind what happened to the guest who was invited to the banquet but did not take the take to change into a wedding garment prior to showing up:

“And when the king came in to see the guests, he saw there a man which had not on a wedding garment: and he saith unto him, ‘Friend, how camest thou in hither not having a wedding garment?’ And he was speechless. Then said the king to the servants, ‘Bind him hand and foot, and take him away, and cast him into outer darkness, there shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth. For many are called, but few are chosen.’” ~ Matthew 22:11-14 (KJV)

The parable is not about showing up to church dressed a certain way, “your Sunday’s best”. Jesus never turned away lepers or refused to feed the hungry because of their appearance. But rather, it speaks to the condition of the heart. Don’t get cast into outer darkness, eternally separated from the Lord, because you showed up in His presence with an unrepentant heart.

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The Lord exalts the humble.

 

Eclipse of The Heart  

Prince Charming met Cinderella when she was looking her absolute best, stunning. But it was not her looks that left an indelible mark on him; it was her character. As a result, when he reconnected with her after an extensive search, he did not see the external image he had seen before. Yet, he was not disappointed or deterred because she had retained what mattered the most, her character. The prince confirmed her identity by having her try on the only reminder he had of the woman who had captivated him at the ball, the glass slipper. The glass slipper was another thing that set her apart from all the other women in the kingdom. It was custom made for her so it fit her feet perfectly and effortlessly. And such is love, it is transparent as glass and it does not hurt when it is the right fit. The glass slipper is also symbolic of how the prince could see the character of the woman he desired, despite her outward appearance. Love is clearly unwavering.

By the way, ladies, please take note of how the prince held on to the only remnant he had of the woman he had fallen for, and he searched for her. Ladies, you never have to spend time pursuing a man who has your “glass slipper”. If he has your number but never calls, your social media account(s) and never checks or comments… I hope you get the picture. If a man has your “glass slipper”, and he knows you are interested in him, yet he is not pursuing you, don’t ever pursue him. Never walk a mile for a man who would never walk across the street for you; Prince Charming scoured the kingdom in his search for Cinderella. When you read the Book of Ruth, take a look at how Boaz reacted after Ruth expressed an interest in being in a relationship with him; Ruth never pursued Boaz and she never had to (Ruth 2-3). After all, “The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord.” ~ Proverbs 18:22 (NLT) A woman who pursues a man will find misery, in part because he won’t treasure her.

As a Christian, whether a man or woman, do not commit idolatry by pursuing a relationship with a person instead of the Lord. If you cannot let go of a person, surrender him or her to the Lord, that person has become an idol (a god) in your life. If a person permeates your thoughts more than the Lord, that person may be a god in your life. It is idolatry if getting into a relationship, to include marriage, is more important to you than being with the Lord. If you are trying to make someone be with you, especially when the person clearly has no interest in you, that person has become an idol in your life, the god you truly worship. That includes even if you believe the Lord told you the individual is going to be your spouse; I recommend that you read Genesis 24:1-9 and meditate on the eighth verse. The Lord is not going to violate anyone’s free will, so woe unto you if you do, or if you try. If you are trying to resurrect a relationship the Lord has allowed to die, not only is that person a god in your life, you have become the god of your life. I could provide more examples of idolatrous relationships, or attempts to be in such relationships, but I leave you with the following Words from the Lord:

‘You must not have any other god but Me. You must not make for yourself an idol of any kind or an image of anything in the heavens or on the earth or in the sea. You must not bow down to them or worship them, for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God who will not tolerate your affection for any other gods. I lay the sins of the parents upon their children; the entire family is affected—even children in the third and fourth generations of those who reject Me. But I lavish unfailing love for a thousand generations on those who love Me and obey My commands.’ ~ Exodus 20:3-6 (NLT)

 

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