“Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.” ~ Proverbs 18:22 (KJV)
Waiting for a man to find you is not a passive thing as many of you have been taught based on Proverbs 18:22. In fact, passivity is one of the reasons why some women are single (and some men too).
Many people can attest that the devil tries to break up God-ordained marriages. Well, I am here to let you know that he also works very hard to try to prevent two people from getting into a God-ordained marriage. For some people, the spiritual warfare is front-loaded. This is not to glorify the devil, and make him seem more powerful than he is, especially to risk making him seem more powerful than God. Yet, do not forget the following warning: “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour.” ~ 1 Peter 5:8 (KJV) So yes, this is a sobering look at your life to ensure the devil is not blocking your blessings, with particular emphasis on marriage, oftentimes as a result of your own cooperation. Like the Lord said, ‘My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge…’ ~ Hosea 4:6 (KJV)
When you are waiting for a man to find you, ensure you are in the correct position for him to find you. Many people will simply tell you to abide in Christ and the man He has ordained for you will find you, in due season. That is true, to a point, in part because you can abide in Christ and still be out of position. After Ruth had accepted Naomi’s God as her God, it would have been harder for Boaz to find her if she was gleaning from another man’s field (Ruth 1, 2). There would have also been another major hurdle if Ruth as still married to Mahlon. Many women who are waiting to be found do not realize the Lord may give her the unction to present herself to the man so he can find her, and then pursue her. Do not overlook the fact that Naomi told Ruth to present herself to Boaz, which was when he truly found her (Ruth 3). Even in the beginning, after the Lord created Eve, He presented her to Adam, which was when he said, ‘This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh…’ ~ Genesis 2:21-24 (KJV)
If a woman, who is waiting to be found, is listening to the wrong voice, she may end up going on a missionary trip, which is a great and even a Godly thing, but it may get her out of position to meet her God-ordained husband. Or, in a similar vein, she may have needed to go another grocery store, but she went to her favorite store instead and missed her divine appointment. The same thing goes for a man by the way if he is not following the promptings of the Holy Spirit.
With respect to what I mentioned about the missionary trip, some distractions come in the form of going on another person’s God-ordained mission. Sometimes doing good things can be very costly, if it was not your assignment. Keep in mind that Jesus was on His way to heal Jairus’ daughter, but because of the delay caused by the woman with the issue of blood, the young girl passed away. Jesus healed the woman and then resurrected the young girl. However, it shows how a pressing issue may cause a distraction that can result in the death of another important thing. The devil will use ethical dilemmas to cause a person to miss his or her blessing. When the Shunammite’s son had passed away, Elisha gave his servant Gehazi the following instructions: ‘Gird up thy loins, and take my staff in thine hand, and go thy way: if thou meet any man, salute him not; and if any salute thee, answer him not again: and lay my staff upon the face of the child.’ ~ 2 Kings 4:29 (KJV) There are times when you simply cannot allow anything to get between you and your blessing, and you may have to give some people the “silent treatment”.
Another consideration when waiting for a spouse is prayer, especially spiritual warfare prayers (as the Lord leads). If the Lord prompts you to get up at 2:00 a.m. to start praying for the spouse you have possibly never met, do not roll over on the Lord’s command. If you don’t pray you may pay. People may very well be up at that hour, under demonic unction, using witchcraft against your future spouse, or possibly the both of you, to prevent you from meeting. If that sounds farfetched, consider the following. When Daniel humbled himself and inquired of the Lord for three weeks, a demon (principality) withstood the angel the Lord had sent to deliver the message. The angel said, ‘Fear not, Daniel: for from the first day that thou didst set thine heart to understand, and to chasten thyself before thy God, thy words were heard, and I am come for thy words. But the prince of the kingdom of Persia withstood me one and twenty days: but, lo, Michael, one of the chief princes, came to help me; and I remained there with the kings of Persia.’ ~ Daniel 10:12-13 (KJV) The Lord may have released your heart’s desire to you but devils are trying to stop it from getting to you. Daniel’s message had been delayed for three weeks due to demonic resistance. Some people have found out that they could have been married already, if…
Many people receive a blessing and take it for granted regarding how easily it seemed to have happened. However, others are painfully aware of the spiritual warfare that was involved before they received the blessing. Do not be passive when waiting for a blessing. If the Lord tells you to be still, then do just that. However, if the Lord tells you to fight, then get your sWORD of the Spirit ready (Ephesians 6:17). Please keep in mind that when the Israelites were stuck by the Red Sea, with the Egyptians advancing towards them, Moses said, ‘Fear ye not, stand still, and see the salvation of the Lord, which He will shew to you to day: for the Egyptians whom ye have seen to day, ye shall see them again no more for ever. The Lord shall fight for you, and ye shall hold your peace.’ ~ Exodus 14:13-14 (KJV) But the Lord’s response was somewhat unexpected. He retorted, ‘Wherefore criest thou unto Me? Speak unto the children of Israel, that they go forward: But lift thou up thy rod, and stretch out thine hand over the sea, and divide it: and the children of Israel shall go on dry ground through the midst of the sea.’ ~ Exodus 14:15-16 (KJV) Be perceptive to what the Lord wants you to do in a given situation. Personally, I would be very disappointed if I received a blessing from the Lord that He had already empowered me to receive, sooner, but I refused to lift even a finger when I should.
Even in the story of Boaz and Ruth, they were in the same field together, but they were missing the catalyst that ignited their relationship. By the way, I have seen many people miss out on a potential blessings because they could not discern the demonic interference. For example, I was recently in a warfare prayer and my phone rang. The number was not in my contact’s list, but it came to mind that it could have been someone I had recently come in contact with, a person who would have made a great prayer partner. However, I did not answer the phone and the person did not leave a message. The phone call was a well-timed attempted distraction to break the flow of prayer. When the devil is first introduced in the Bible, the word “subtle” is used to describe him. Ensure you are not listening to the wrong voices or you could miss your blessing, and then the Lord would have to reroute it. Detours can be very slow, and painful. Instead of your blessing taking the long and scenic route to get to you, or you to it, how about the two of you take the scenic route together instead. Never forget that the Israelites could have entered the Promised Land sooner, but their fear caused them to lose faith in God. The devil may not be able to stop you from receiving your blessing, but he will try to delay it or even cause you to reject it. When Boaz initially saw Ruth, the way his men described her was not a compliment. Saying she was from Moab was basically telling him to stay away from her, plus she was destitute (Ruth 2:5-7). Boaz could have rejected her based on appearance, especially because Moabites worshipped another god. But, despite what they had to say, the Lord had shown Boaz that Ruth was a virtuous woman (Ruth 2:11-12). Ensure you are listening to what the Lord has to say to you about a person. If not, even your most trusted friend could prevent you from receiving your blessing from the Lord.
Please take note of the difference between when Sarah gave Abraham bad advice to take Hagar as his wife, which resulted in the birth of Ishmael (Genesis 16), and when Sarah later told him to put her away (Genesis 21). Many scholars have argued that Ishmael’s birth resulted in the Lord delaying the fulfillment of His promise to bless Abraham and Sarah with Isaac. “Ishmael” is used as a colloquial for a counterfeit, and the devil will send counterfeits to block your blessings. Again, prayer is important. Rachel initially lost Jacob to Leah because of sorcery, even though Leah knew he did not love or want her (Genesis 29:15-30). Leah spent years at enmity with her sister. She even accused Rachel, the one Jacob made a covenant with their father Laban to marry (after seven years hard labor), of stealing her husband (Genesis 30:15). I say again, prayer is important; if possible, the devil will send someone to steal and bind your blessing. I went on a slight detour, however, I never lost focus of the point I was initially inspired to make in this section. When Sarah told Abraham to put Hagar and Ishmael away, Abraham received input from the Lord to do what his wife had asked (Genesis 21:9-14). Similarly, the input you receive from others close to you may not be in accordance with the Lord’s will for you. Seek the Lord to find out if a person has communicated something to you on His behalf. King Ahab listened to the wrong voices that proclaimed to have spoken on behalf of the Lord, but it did not work out well for him, at all (1 Kings 22).
On a different note, another potential cause of delays is if the Lord entrusts a “Jonah” with a revelation about your God-ordained relationship. The person may not like you, the partner the Lord has chosen for you, or other types of grievances, and therefore plays god by withholding the revelation. The story of Boaz and Ruth would be different if Naomi had not said something. Woe unto those individuals who sabotage other people’s lives by withholding information, or even corrupting it. They will have to give an account to the Lord (Ezekiel 33:6).
A gift from God is worth the wait, but please ensure you do not spend more time waiting than is absolutely necessary. Do not allow others to block your entry into the “promised land”, especially those who do not want to see the Lord bless you. For forty years, Joshua and Caleb waited to receive a promise that was so close yet so far away, because other people lacked the faith to trust the Lord. Trust and obey God!
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Please see the following videos about relationships:
“IDentifying YOUR God-Ordained Spouse, and the counterfeits (Part 1 of 3)”: https://youtu.be/eISTMrktxcs
“IDentifying YOUR God-Ordained Spouse, and the counterfeits (Part 2 of 3)”: https://youtu.be/g-hAFrZg9P4
“IDentifying YOUR God-Ordained Spouse, and the counterfeits (Part 3 of 3)”: https://youtu.be/dVS3FkYEgVk
Witchcraft in Christianity: https://youtu.be/LipzCfedhZY
Marriage: God-ordained vs. God-endorsed: https://youtu.be/Goc8vsaTWNw
Demonically Arranged Unions: https://youtu.be/RWpX0eq-DDY
Spiritual Warfare Prayers: Restoration of Relationship (Marriage): https://youtu.be/PFN1AEUGVJI
Signs and symptoms of Witchcraft Attacks: https://youtu.be/sEOJXed1E4Y
Relationship Reality Check: Ungodly Marriages, Godly Divorces: https://youtu.be/I68YT8KLu_E